My friend has 2 girls ages 8 & 10. Every week they are at their dads from Thursday after school to Friday evening (his 2 days off). Dad has a fiancee who has 2 kids as well (one being a 4 year old boy). The girls were outside playing with the 4 year old soon to be stepbrother last week unsupervised by dad or fiancee. Well apparently the 4yo decided he was going to beat up the 8yo (he actually left bruises & scracthes on her). The 10yo stepped up & pulled the 4yo off her sister. When they went in to tell dad his response was "oh well"!!!
Mom was glad that her DDs didn't beat up a 4yo, but then when she saw the bruises & scratches she was LIVID! She ended up taking pictures of all the bruises & scratches from the 4yo because mom & dad are currently in a custody battle & she wanted to make sure that the guardian sees the pictures.
She told me that she ended up telling her DD that she needs to stand up for herself. NOT to throw the 1st punch, but to not just stand there & let the 4yo beat her up. And she told them that if their dad said something to them about beating up a 4yo then they were to tell him that mom said to defend themselves if someone is beating them up!
Do you think the mom was right in telling her girls this? What would you have done in this case?