Probably going to get bashed for this, but here we go...
I was in my 12 year old son's room looking for some of his artwork. He has a lot of cartoons, and various artwork he's created in a bunch of different notebooks, and I was hoping to pick some of the best and get them bound in a book for his 13th birthday this July. I mention my reason for being there to demonstrate that I wasn't 'snooping'.
On his desk - laying wide open - I noticed he had written in his journal. He's tried journaling before, and usually gets one entry and gives up, LOL. It just doesn't hold his interest.
Now, I KNOW I shouldn't have read the journal entry (it's just one entry from yesterday). But, I did. Again, it was laying wide open so it's not like he was trying to hide it, and he knows I go in his room sometimes to put things away, etc.
So, what I read has two parts. One was kind of sad. And one ticked me off. Most of it was just a play-by-play account of his day. When he got to lunch, he indicated that this boy (who had majorly bullied & threatened to shoot him earlier in the year) was saying stuff to/about him again so my DS did the right thing and got up to leave...only when leaving he apparently spilled his entire can of v8 all over the tray, his shirt, and his pants.
That's the sad part. He never mentioned any of that to me - and I didn't see any stains on his clothes - so I'm sad it happened (especially in front of the bully) and I'm sad he didn't tell me. :(
Then, he talked about that evening at home and how DH yelled at him for taking two snacks instead of one (true) and how his little (8yo) brother wouldn't leave him alone in his room so he showed his brother that he had his piggy bank - which made little brother mad and he left. He then 'joked' that little brother tried to tattle "unsuccessfully" (which means DH and I didn't listen - sad again, I don't even remember him trying to tattle on anything), and THEN DS12 joked that he stole that piggy bank DAYS ago and thinks it's funny that DS8 didn't notice.
That's the part that ticks me off.
Now, my 12 year old is a GOOD kid. Teachers, coaches, churchgoers, etc. all rave about him (actually about all 3 of our boys) and how well behaved, polite, respectful, etc. they are. And it's true. We really lucked out in the kid dept. and he's a GOOD kid. He's also a straight A student. But, stealing his brother's bank (as a joke, not to use the money) is SO NOT GOOD.
But, here's my dilemma. He didn't TELL me any of this. I want to talk to him about what happened at lunch and he should be disciplined about the piggy bank...but I'm not supposed to know.
What do I do? What would you do?