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How Spoiled Is Your Child?


Top 10 Cities With 'Most Spoiled' Kids

Posted by Jeanne Sager

presentsFor the most part, I don't care how other parents parent their own kids. After all, what does it have to do with MY kid? But I am starting to hate parents who spoil their kids

So I have to say a company that's claiming they have a list of the cities with the most spoiled kids (and of course the cities with the least spoiled kids) made me curious. Could we be looking at a giant warning sign for parents who don't want to be sucked into buying their kids a bunch of crap they don't need because we want to keep up with the Joneses?

The thing is, I never thought my kid would be spoiled. Not even when we made the decision to be one and done. And then she started elementary school. In came the wants. No. Wait. The needs! "Mommy, I need this," she insists. Because, of course, so-and-so in her class has it, so therefore, she must have it too. You see the problem?

It's like a virus that spreads. One parent spoils their kid, and the next kid starts whining, and finally THAT parent gets guilted into making a purchase, and so on and so on. For the most part, we just say no. That's our jobs. But there's only so much whining one can take, and we all have to give in some time. Let's just say there was a lot of "but everyone has one" that led to the handheld gaming system charging in my living room outlet right now.

Tracking "spoiled kids" by city doesn't surprise me in the least. So here's the skinny:

Bundle, the compiler of the spoiled kids list, used the average amounts spent at stores that sell toys, clothing, and other kid accoutrements to judge whether parents were going overboard on their kids. Their data puts Manhattan at the top of the list, followed by Brooklyn, New York; then Miami, Florida. Minneapolis and Tulsa round out the top five. Los Angeles -- home to all those celebrity parents -- makes the top 10, as does Dallas, Texas, land of living large.

I was set to say that it was all about the cost of living -- Manhattan, after all, is an expensive place, so people are going to have to spend more on a box of blocks, right? But get this. Number five "most spoiled" city Tulsa, Oklahoma, has a cost of living that's just about equal to Madison, Wisconsin, the city that gets the billing of LEAST spoiled in the country. Not to mention the twin cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul are a total split -- the former is on the most spoiled list, but the latter is full of parents who are making their kids make do.

So what should you do if you don't want to have to listen to a kid harping (and be the mean mom who says "NO" all the time?)? Avoid the following:

  • Miami, FL
  • Minneapolis, MN
  • Tulsa, OK
  • Dallas, TX
  • Atlanta, GA
  • Los Angeles, CA
  • San Diego, CA
  • Ft. Worth, TX

Now move to Madison, Wisconsin; St. Paul, Minnesota; or Milwaukee, Wisconsin. They're the three cities where spoiling is truly out of style!

Are your kids spoiled? In what ways?

How do you avoid spoiling your kids?

by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 9:29 AM
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jurnee14
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 10:32 PM
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Quoting Nuncius:

This article is interesting for me.

I'm French and in France we don't spoil kids.

I mean not only by ''buying things'' but also by not ''letting them doing what they want to do''... behavior is as important as having a lot of toys. I have some american friends here and I wonder if americans are all spoiling their kids like my friends... I mean when they were invited in my house with their son (5) and their daughter (2), they let them destroying my house!!! Kids did what they wanted, destroyed everything and the parents didn't say a word to them!!! I was shocked by their behavior. And the mom seeing how I felt about it asked me: if you're not happy with what they're doing, explain to them... But in France if you ''talk'' to a child who is not yours in front of his parents, that;s very rude!!! So I didn't say a word and I just wonder how other american moms behave with their kids in a friend's house??? Please , please tell me know, because I'm so scared of their kids!!!

And to answer to the question: no I'm not spoiling my daughter. She's 8 month and I have already started to teach her ''NO''.

I have known parents who let their kids behave this way, but most parents Ive met are not like this. In fact, even theones I know who are pretty lenient in their own homes, really try to make sure their kids mind their manners when at others homes.  I think its a bit odd that the mom saw yow were upset and then expected you to deal with her kids. To me, those childern are the definition of spoiled, doing as they want, gettting waht they want.

momof2ex1
by Member on Jun. 17, 2012 at 2:51 AM
I'm very surprised to see Ft Worth on any list!! We rarely make the map bc we get lumped with Dallas on most things. My kids are spoiled. In a good way. They may not have ALL that they want but they have enough and they surely have all they need.

I'm actually surprised that Dallas is considered the 'the land of living large' since most children that attend Dallas school district are low income families and are on state assistance. Lol that's not living large. The outer cities like Highland Park, Frisco, the Colony, Valley Ranch-- those kids don't go to public school... So sure they are spoiled. But not in the city of Dallas.
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Nuncius
by on Jun. 17, 2012 at 7:56 AM
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Quoting jurnee14:


Quoting Nuncius:

This article is interesting for me.

I'm French and in France we don't spoil kids.

I mean not only by ''buying things'' but also by not ''letting them doing what they want to do''... behavior is as important as having a lot of toys. I have some american friends here and I wonder if americans are all spoiling their kids like my friends... I mean when they were invited in my house with their son (5) and their daughter (2), they let them destroying my house!!! Kids did what they wanted, destroyed everything and the parents didn't say a word to them!!! I was shocked by their behavior. And the mom seeing how I felt about it asked me: if you're not happy with what they're doing, explain to them... But in France if you ''talk'' to a child who is not yours in front of his parents, that;s very rude!!! So I didn't say a word and I just wonder how other american moms behave with their kids in a friend's house??? Please , please tell me know, because I'm so scared of their kids!!!

And to answer to the question: no I'm not spoiling my daughter. She's 8 month and I have already started to teach her ''NO''.

I have known parents who let their kids behave this way, but most parents Ive met are not like this. In fact, even theones I know who are pretty lenient in their own homes, really try to make sure their kids mind their manners when at others homes.  I think its a bit odd that the mom saw yow were upset and then expected you to deal with her kids. To me, those childern are the definition of spoiled, doing as they want, gettting waht they want.

Ok thank you for reassuring me! My husband told me they were not ''normal americans'' LOL... both of the parents are professors at the university... how I could have imagined they will let their kids behaving that way. For me too, they are truly spoiled. When I see the little boy hitting is sister and the parents just telling me: ''do not hit your sister'' and of course he carries on... I'm shocked!

I hope they will never come back to my house...

psych_mom
by on Jun. 17, 2012 at 10:10 AM
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You're very welcome!


Quoting Nuncius:

To Barabell and psych_mom : thanks for telling me that.... to be honest I was really wondering if it was me who was asking too much to their kids... so again thank you.


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Barabell
by Barbara on Jun. 18, 2012 at 10:33 AM


Quoting Nuncius:

To Barabell: She has just started to say Maman :) so yes too little indeed! That's great he knows 2 languages! Do you have here kind of association with foreigners kids address? You pay a cheap price to have a contact with another child who wish the same. When I was a kid I did this with my mum. Its was great. I had contact with a German little girl. We wrote letters to each other without meeting, giving drawings, map, sharing our lives, etc. That was a fantastic experience.

I haven't heard of an association like that. I would think if it was common here that his old school would have provided that kind of information to us, but I'm going to google for something like that. Thanks for the info!! Your Engish is very good. Are you going to teach it to your daughter also?

Nuncius
by on Jun. 18, 2012 at 10:43 AM


Quoting Barabell:

I haven't heard of an association like that. I would think if it was common here that his old school would have provided that kind of information to us, but I'm going to google for something like that. Thanks for the info!! Your Engish is very good. Are you going to teach it to your daughter also?

Yes, it was provided by the school. It was done to improve languages taught at school. In France children learn German, English and Spanish. Thanks for my English. I still need to improve it :)

Yes I'm trying to talk to her in both languages! But at her age, concentration is not easy! :)

Barabell
by Barbara on Jun. 18, 2012 at 10:51 AM


Quoting Nuncius:


Quoting Barabell:

I haven't heard of an association like that. I would think if it was common here that his old school would have provided that kind of information to us, but I'm going to google for something like that. Thanks for the info!! Your Engish is very good. Are you going to teach it to your daughter also?

Yes, it was provided by the school. It was done to improve languages taught at school. In France children learn German, English and Spanish. Thanks for my English. I still need to improve it :)

Yes I'm trying to talk to her in both languages! But at her age, concentration is not easy! :)

You're welcome. Your grammar is better than many on CM. I would not have guessed that English is not your first language.

It's great that the schools there teach other languages. Most elementary schools here do not, and people (mainly strangers) have openly criticize us sending our child to a language immersion school. I could care less, but I think it's odd that they have no issue so openly judging our educational decision.

Nuncius
by on Jun. 18, 2012 at 4:40 PM


Quoting Barabell:
You're welcome. Your grammar is better than many on CM. I would not have guessed that English is not your first language.

It's great that the schools there teach other languages. Most elementary schools here do not, and people (mainly strangers) have openly criticize us sending our child to a language immersion school. I could care less, but I think it's odd that they have no issue so openly judging our educational decision.

Waou thanks! I didn't know my English was that good! :) I think learning to languages is a chance and it has been shown that children who are fluent in 2 languages do better at school. :)))

I really don't understand people you have met.... I think it's always a good thing to know more than too little :)

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