So I was told about the terrible 2's but no one ever warned me about the 9's
OMG! My 9 year old must of gone and lost her mind. She has had a bad, really bad attitude lately. The I am not doing what you tell me to and you can't make me so there! This attitiude started about two months ago. My little one was sick and we had in-laws in from out of town that I was having to wait on hand and foot while my husband was gone from dawn and until after dusk every night. I had asked her to do something and she just sat there. I again asked her and she just gave me that make me look. At that point I turned the TV off and told her that she needed to get up and go do what was asked of her. (I cannot remember what it was). She started back talking me, so I told her that if she wants to act like that she can go to her room because no one wants to listen to that kind of behavior. She sat on the floor and said no I am not going to my room or doing what you want. (Well the doing what you want, she said what I was actually asking her to do). So at this point I had had it. I picked her up and carried her to her room, kicking and screaming. After that she opened her door and yelled you can't make me do anything and started slamming her door. So I very calmly got the pliers (the little one was sleeping, well trying to) and took her door off. While trying to do this I am being pushed and hit. When she calmed down I told her that her behavior was not allowed and we talked about it. I also told her that she was grounded for as long as she did not have a door.
Here is how the no-door policy goes
Day one- you loose your door
Day two, three and four - if you have good behavior you earn back one pin per day. If you have an attitude you will not earn a pin. If you have an attitude 2 days in a row you will loose a pin you have already earned back.
Day five - earn the door back
So that length of grounding is 5 days minimal. She decides how long she is grounded for.
Well again the other night we had one of this mood swings. What made me so mad about this one is the lack of support from the husband. He just sat on the couch messing on his computer, GRRR. So I am trying to deal with (mood swing, attitude, or what ever you want to call it) while he just sits there. Then she hits me and I ask him for some back up and support and he tells me to chill out and that I am handling it all worng. So at this point I am so mad I left. I crabed my purse and left at 11:30 at night. I have never been that mad before. Yes she was still up. I had been trying to get her to go to bedfor the past 3 hours. Shower, teeth, and then she saw a bug in on her bed. She had just stayed the night at a friends house and thought it came back from there. So we told her to take every thing off her bed and I would wash it. Well that is what set the attitude off, she wanted someone else to do it. Meanless to say at 11:30 when she hit me I took my purse and left. I was not going to do any good at home at that point. I need a break!
Please tell me that I am not the only one going through this? Please tell me this shall pass or at least until she is a teen?