My son is going in to the 6th grade {middle school} and he has girls all over him!! They call all the time and they don't leave him alone....I'm sure he loves the attention :)
I'm not ready for this. Does your child have a "boyfriend/girlfriend" at this age? Do they hang out or is it more of a phone friend? I tell him all the time to never give up your friends for a girl and if they start to play games dump them. Am i going overboard? I'm just want him to understand that he's not going to fall in love at this age.
Please help me :)
My 11 year old has a "girlfriend". He only sees her at school and they seldom talk on the phone. I don't see the point, but if it makes him feel better in some way to say that he has a girlfriend I am not going to argue with him about it. We only have cell phones so I am not going to let him give out my number to everyone. He knows that he has to ask to do that.
I would ask him to limit the number of people that he gives the phone number out too and then talk to him about how he feels about the attention. Also make sure that you are having ongoing talks with him about sex and appropriate boy/girl relationships at his age.
My 11 year old has a "girl friend" as well. They see each other only at school and rarely talk on the phone. I haven't had to set limits on phone usage, but would if he was on the phone often talking to his friends. This would also be a great time to talk about respecting girls and girls respecting him. Not to mention a refresher talk about sex. At this age I don't feel that kids should be going on dates, even group dates or really spending time together outside of school.
No dating or having BF/GF's in our house right now. DD is my oldest and going into 5th grade. I know she's had crushes this past year but no BF, I personally will not encourage DD, I'd rather her focus on school work. I do have step-kids that are 10, 12, and 16 but they are so socailly immature they are far off from dating as well.
As for your son, sorry no suggestions. My DS is 5 so I have a while.
At 11, our idea of dating was hanging out in the hallways and the bragging rights of Having a bf/gf... I'd watch how much phone time he's using, but personally I wouldn't be too worried about it yet. But you know your son better than we do, so...
I met my DH in 8th grade though, and we were best friends for years before we dated officially. But neither of us were into the dating for dating's sake thing either.
I have an 11 year old and he does not have a girlfriend. My rule is no girlfriend til high school and he knows that. I try to make him understand that school is more important than girls and to keep his head in the books. But I'm worried he's going to middle school this year.
Not my son-he has had crushes on girls at a younger age-but they havent been on him.
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- Ryanswife
on Jun. 28, 2012 at 10:30 AM