My oldest children are almost 13 and 14yrs old. I let them go with their grandparents out of state for two weeks to visit family. Their dad and I divorced in 2004.
My kids have been calling and emailing telling me so many negative things that are being said. I haven't heard any positives, not how much they enjoy seeing family, the fun they are having, etc...just negativity about me being told to them, over and over.
I never, EVER speak badly about their dad or his side of the family. There are hundreds of things I could say to my kids, and never in all these years have I. They are just kids and I don't think they deserve to hear grown up issues, things about the past, etc. Especially when so many of these things they are being told couldn't be further from the truth!
So my question is, would you confront the grandparents and if so, how would you go about it? I can't stand confrontation as I am a very shy person.
Also, how would you handle the lies that your children were told, without explaining everything in detail? I feel like if I tell them they were lied to, I'd in turn have to tell them the truth about some things from the past that will break their hearts. I'll feel like I'm doing exactly what the grandparents are doing.