Does your husband/SO have friends that you don't really like?
My husband has friends that he has known for years. Some of them went to school together since elementary. A couple of them went to school during college. He still keeps in contact with them and hangs out with them once in awhile. BUT...I have to say that I don't like many of them. One has multiple DUIs and is a womanizer and one time talked about going on a cruise and had a target number for woman he was trying to sleep with. Another one has cheated on his wife multiple times. Several of them from work hang out together a lot and all they do is drink. My husband does hang out with them here and there but there was a time when I didn't look forward to Fridays because that was when he was hanging out with them after work.
Now, I know my husband is responsible for himself but I have always felt like he has never really had that positive peer influence so for years he was just doing what him and his friends were doing....mostly drinking without responsibility. When he is with these guys, it's like he does what they do...as if it's too embarrassing to say, "No, I'm only going to have one." It has affected our marriage to the point that I gave him the "alcohol or me" talk until we can establish some boundaries when it comes to alcohol. He is seeing our marriage counselor by himself for now. My husband hasn't had a drink in a couple of weeks but he also hasn't hung out with these guys during this time either. When we meet families where the husband doesn't drink, my husband doesn't click with them very much. It's like he only feels connection over a beer.
Anyways, anytime I hear he is hanging out with one of these guys, my heart is heavy and then I don't know what to expect.
Does your husband/SO have friends that seem to influence him? Positively or negatively?