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need advice please

Posted by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 12:14 AM
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i'm having a terrible time with my 10 yr old daughter and i'm getting to a total loss as of what I can do to help the situation some , she has some pretty serious mental problems and gets violent almost daily , she has been in the mental hospital 4 times this year and also does 8 hrs of in home therapy every week , now i love my daughter but i'm expecting again and shes really crossing the line, i have called the police to help me before and they wont arrest her because of her age they can only give her a ticket that i'm gonna have to pay, im really considering a boot camp of some type for her but im not having any luck on a boot camp for a 10 yr old girl if you know of anything i'm looking for help!

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psych_mom
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 12:41 AM
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What type of mental problems does she have? I'm asking because I'm finishing up my psych degree and it would help more if I had specifics.
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bakerwife09
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 12:48 AM

well shes bipolar with psychotic features , depression , adhd , anxiety disorder with sleep apnea and high blood pressure , she gets dellusional from time to time and has gotten suicidal in the past , she has a pattern going on and its very disturbing at times and we are trying everything to help get through to her its very hard to deal with

kiowaqueen
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 12:54 AM
Oh wow im sorry.... i dont know what to say....but maybe if u put her in boot camp it might feel to her that she's no good like trash people giving up on her in her eyes... best of luck. Stay strong Mom *hug* oh and congraulations on a new baby :)
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psych_mom
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 1:19 AM
Is she on medication to treat these issues? I'm really concerned because if she is being violent due to these mental issues, boot camp isn't really going to help her. She doesn't need to be put in some where that the people are going to be loud and yelling. A scared straight tactic doesn't work with these type of mental disorders.
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psych_mom
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 1:26 AM
Medication wise, if she is on it, is she on medication to treat just one specific thing or several meds to treat each thing? Anti-psychotics don't treat depression, antidepressants don't treat psychosis, then there is adhd, anxiety, and blood pressure. There is a blood pressure med, Intuniv that can help with ADHD. And some antidepressants will help relieve anxiety although that isn't their intended purpose.
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Lovingmomfarm
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 1:26 AM

I am sorry that you are going through this.  If your daughter is on medication, maybe you can talk to her Dr. to make sure the dosage is correct.  Are you seeing a specialist for he mental issues?  Stay strong HUGS.

bakerwife09
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 6:32 AM

yes she is highly medicated she is on 2 differant anti psychotics and one for the adhd and then she has a seditive 3 times a day and then there is her sleeping meds and the anxiety med also helps with her blood pressure .... i realize that boot camp can be extreme but i cant keep goin though this she hasnt been able to go to school since last november im still waiting to hear if they are going to let her come back or not shes a liability issue there complete bs but the other parents dont want there kids around her shes threatn many students and a few teachers and she attemped suicide in front of her entire girl scout troop last febuary.. it just breaks my heart everytime she has to go to the hospital and then she comes home and does good for about 2 days i have to lock up everything from her ... please keep in consideration that in 2009 our home burnt down and she lost everything her things her friends her cat and i swear a part of her died that day and she hasnt been right ever since then i miss my daughter and really want her back but i fear that may never happen and if she doesnt change shes gonna really hurt someone some day

Wyldbutterfly
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 9:54 AM

This has got to be so hard. I'm so very sorry for your DD and you.

Do you think Hospitalization will work for her? Maybe they need to re evaluate the meds she is on. And until they get her leveled out again, it may be the best thing for her?

I really don't have any advice, just some thoughts and a shoulder for you. ((hugs momma))

psych_mom
by on Jul. 6, 2012 at 10:54 AM
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Honestly, I have been thinking about this a lot. My fear is for your soon to be new born baby. I'm worried about the harm that she may do do to him or her if for one single second the baby is out of your sight. She needs extensive therapy and I'm not sure that it is going to help her completely at this age. Her medications may not be helping as well as they normally would because of puberty. Have you thought about a long term psychiatric facility? I know it isn't it, but for now, that may be your only solution because they can provide intense therapy for her.
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steelcrazy
by Silver Member on Jul. 6, 2012 at 11:01 AM

My oldest son suffers from generalized anxiety and I know that it has gotten a thousand times worse since the hormones have kicked in.  He is normally very good at self coping, but I've found myself getting involved a lot more often.  I truely do feelf for you and will pray for you and your dd.  

I would honestly listen to Stacy's (psych_mom) advice.  This is her area of knowledge for sure, and she is very helpful.  I wish that I had more to offer you.  *hugs*

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