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[lvmom76]

Lately my DS is arguing and doesn't cooperate with requests. I ask him to take the trash out or help his little brother his response time is sloooooooooooooooowwww and then we argue. He thinks he knows it all. Any suggestions?

[SuperLooneyMom]

I was at work one day and a mom was telling her son that if he didn't listen that she was taking some marbles out of the jar.
I guess I'm saying maybe try a incentive of some sort. But don't bribe. Perhaps he can earn free time or a day/afternoon.

[M4LG5]

Don't allow anything (I.e. tv, video games, friends house, etc) until he does. Give him a time limit, for everything 5minutes (or whatever you pick) its another day he doesn't get it.

[psych_mom]

Agree. My son prefers to get a chore over with so he can move on to the fun things.

Quoting M4LG5:

Don't allow anything (I.e. tv, video games, friends house, etc) until he does. Give him a time limit, for everything 5minutes (or whatever you pick) its another day he doesn't get it.

[M4LG5]

Also...don't engage in an argument at all. If he tries, pause before saying anything and remind him that you will not argue about this and the conversation is done.

[our3]

Start taking everything away and if he wants it back he need to cooperate in a timely manner.

[Barabell]

Set guidelines and clear expectations out to your son. Also lay out consequences if he doesn't follow those guidelines, and consistency enforce those consequences. (The first consequence could be a verbal warning. Many times that's all we need to do to get our son to be respectful again.)