Recently my mom told me when she had my 9yo DS & 11yo DD over for the night my DS mentioned killing himself because he doesn't like it "here" (meaning in the world I guess).
Today DS was the ball boy at my 16yo DS's JV soccer game. Even though 9yo was on the other side of the field I could tell the 16yo yelled at him for something & I could see 9yo DS wiping away a tear. Then I saw not only a coach but a ref go up to him (9yo) & talk to him & give him a pat on the back. During half my 11yo DD (who was the other ball kid) ran over to the other side of the field & talked to 9yo. When she came back she said 16yo had yelled at 9yo & 9yo had made a motion as if to stab himself in the heart & wiggle around the (invisible) knife.
I'm concerned because I have never had to deal with this before. Some backstory- my ex & I seperated back in 2006 when 9yo was only 3 at the time & the youngest of 4 kids. We finally divorced this past April, but nothing in our routine has changed much. Infact, since ex & I decided it wasn't working out ex has been coming around alot less (he also has another son that our kids don't know about yet).
I did at one point think my 9yo had ADHD & we saw a behavior specialist who determined that he did not have it but she did seem someunderlying anxiety issues. I chose not to go back to see her (mainly for fear that insurance wouldn't cover the visits). But now I am thinking (especially with school starting) that maybe we should go back & see her?