I'm not talking grandpa was old & sick- I'm talking their dad's cousin hung himself & didn't make it.
My 16yo knows what happened. My other 4 kids do not.
Jean (the cousin of my ex) was 22. He hung himself with a dog leash this past MOnday. The drs revived him 4 times. He was in a drug induced coma for 24 hours. The stopped the paralydic so that they could determine how much brain damage was done. As of Wed they were still running tests. As of Thursday they declared him brain dead. There was nothing more they could do other than keep him on life suport because he was an organ donor.
The worst part of all this is his 19 year old sister Lillie was the one put in charge of making all the decisions. Her mom made it to the hospital on Monday (according to my ex who was there) & she ended up saying it was too much for her & walked out. This is not the 1st time she has walked out on the kids. She married their stepdad (my ex's uncle) & walked out on all 3 of them (the uncle & kids) even after he had saved her & the kids from an abusive relationship. Through the divorce the courts granted him custody of the kids (I don't know all the legistics I just know he got custody).
So my point is- how do I attempt to tell the kids their cousin is gone? We really only saw him once a year (at Christmas) so we were that close but they do know who he is. When I told them their dad may not be able to spend time with them on Tuesday (his day off) they asked why & all I said was there were some family issues he had to deal with (which might be true if there is a funeral).