Yesterday DH was complaining to dd about how some of her friends always seem to come to our house to eat and then leave. I tried giving him a look behind her back, waved my arms, made shooshing gestures but he just kept going, saying that she needed to tell her friends to back off, we're not feeding the whole neighborhood. After his tirade I took him aside and explained reality to him, that although we are far from well off, many of our dd's friends live in households where there is little money, food stamps get sold for drug money, parents are often absent, etc. No we can't afford to feed all dd's friends but we're gonna do it anyway. He says it's not our responsibility to take care of everyone else's kids. I think when it comes to making sure kids are fed, it is very much all of our responsibilities. Do you have an open fridge policy in your house? If you don't is it because you can't afford it or some other reason?