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Body image help

Posted by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:30 AM
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I never thought I'd have to deal with one of my dds not likin their body so young. It breaks my heart to know she is made fun of because of her size. She doesn't eat at school and comes home starving. She wants to exercise and run to loose weight in order to fit in. Apparently if you can't see your bones you're fat. How do I build up her confidence to where she was once at?
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Lorena
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:35 AM
Do you belong to a church maybe she can join a youth group oytside of school. Make sure you tell her how beautiful she is!
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Barabell
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 9:59 AM
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I've heard that girls involved in sports at this age have a more positive body image. If she's interested in running, encourage that energy going into a sport. Then talk about how she needs proper nutrition to fuel her body for that sport.

AMartin81
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 12:47 PM
How old is she? My daughter is 10 and never felt bad about herself until two girls at school told her she was fat now she worries all the time. It's so sad that girls do this to each other.
LisaMarie27
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:05 PM
I just taught our youth group at church about inner beauty. I've got the keynote still, if you'd like I could email it to you? Good stuff.
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Reina13
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:10 PM
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I think getting her involved in a sport or some other youth activity will really help with the self esteem.

GotSomeKids
by Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:11 PM
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I agree with this and my daughter went through this last year.  I couldn't figure it out because she is actually underweight.  She told me she thought the girls at school were skinnier than her.  So, I told her to look at her fellow Girl Scouts, look at the people at karate/kickboxing class.  She pointed out one little girl who was skinnier to her and I asked her "now tell me why she is skinny".  Her response was, because she spends so much time in the hospital (her friend actually has Cystic Fybrosis).  It finally clicked with her that skinny doesn't equal healthy.  I also had her speak with my trainer (she is the gym owners wife) and her karate instructor.  They all told her, if you see bone, then you have no muscle.  Not healthy.

She pondered on it awhile and seems to have accepted that explanation.  She is 9 now and gained 12 lbs last year.  The doctor says she is finally reaching the low end of her weight scale.

Quoting Barabell:

I've heard that girls involved in sports at this age have a more positive body image. If she's interested in running, encourage that energy going into a sport. Then talk about how she needs proper nutrition to fuel her body for that sport.


MIMIBRIE
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:16 PM
Yes please! It's mimi_brie@yahoo.com

Quoting LisaMarie27:

I just taught our youth group at church about inner beauty. I've got the keynote still, if you'd like I could email it to you? Good stuff.
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MIMIBRIE
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:17 PM
She's about to be 10. There were girls at her school that have a P&s group (pretty & skinny) and she's nt allowed in it bc she's too "fat". It's all sad. :(

Quoting AMartin81:

How old is she? My daughter is 10 and never felt bad about herself until two girls at school told her she was fat now she worries all the time. It's so sad that girls do this to each other.
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MIMIBRIE
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:18 PM
No we aren't active members at church. But the youth group is aimed for jr high and up. Thanks . I tell her every day! :)

Quoting Lorena:

Do you belong to a church maybe she can join a youth group oytside of school. Make sure you tell her how beautiful she is!
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TempestRayne
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:20 PM
Quoting Reina13:

I think getting her involved in a sport or some other youth activity will really help with the self esteem.


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