Please help....My 9 year old is out of control with her mouth!
So my 9 year old DD thinks that everything I say to her is in question form. I will tell her to clean her room and she has some remark to make in response. The constant eye rolling, sucking air through her teeth, talking back and terrible attitude is getting to be too much.
I have tried everything with her. I don't spank because her father and I are going through a custody battle and I don't need any more crap from him. Also, at 9 years old is spanking really effective?? I have taken things away and she doesn't care. I have started having her write statements 100 times per incident. The other night she had to write I will not disrespect my mom and I will not talk back to my mom 100 times. After she is always remorseful and apologizes but it's like the next day we are with the same thing. And the looks...she looks at me like I am some type of moron! I really just want to slap her.
I understand that she is changing and going through things and I keep an open dialogue with her as much as she allows. I understand that she is going through that stage of wanting to grow up but still be a little kid, but something has got to give. I am tired of fighting with her every day about the same thing. I also have a 6 year old DD who is picking this stuff up. I am at my whit's end!
Any advice would be so appreciated. Any other ideas for discipline?! Talking to her father is not an option. We are not on speaking terms. Any time I have tried to tell him his response to me is, "well you wanted this divorce so you deal with it."