My 12yr old cousin (lives with us) has been stealing. First it was $12 from us. Money that i have her for a fundraiser. Now its pens from school. The teacher caught her last week and called us. For the money when i asked her she kept saying no and no. Her sister (20yrs old) even paid me back the money but i don't want her money and its not the money that bothers me its the stealing and lying. Her mom (who still thinks she has a say in "raising" this child) got mad at me for accusing her of taking the money. Today i find out that she was stealing from school because she "knows" that if she acts out we will take her to go see her sister. I said she couldn't go but my mom,dad and aunt(her mom) said she can go. I was out numbered and she left to go see her sister.
DH and i were talking and we think she should work to pay back the money she took. We pay our 5 year old a quarter for each room he cleans. I was thinking of "paying" her fifty cents for every room plus $1 for every basket of laundry she folds. There are 5-6 rooms she can clean every week and out of those there are 3 she can clean every day. What would you do? I do sometimes feel like telling my parents to just take her if they aren't going to follow my rules.