Is what my DH and I came up w/ to counter act our almost 13 yo DDs' sarcasm, attitude, eye rolling, etc when answering a question regardless of what and how it is being asked by us. She attempts to answer in the same condescending way and then looks at us like we have two heads! We decided it was time to have a serious down to earth family chat about her attitude becoming a teen, the changes that are and are not acceptable along w/ the consequences and of course, why it is so important to lose the attitude. Her blossoming new habit as to how she was answering us, was on the top of our list when we sat down. Now, she understands the connotation behind, "do you want to change the way you answered me"?, and immediately re answers the question in a normal manner. It helps her to identify the attitude, as she had stated she didn't even realize it 1/2 the time. It has really helped our communication all around as a family, even towards her little brother and sister in which was/remains a constant struggle for her. As our children change and grow, I am finding that we as parents need to develop the skills and understanding that the bounderies we set along w/ the consequences need to equally evolve and develop. What worked two yrs ago, will not necessarily work today. Hopefully, this may help some one else dealing w/ the same problem.