What Would You Do About This Scary Bus Driver Problem? Help!
My DS is 11 years old and in 5th grade. The bus driver that he has had since kindergarten recently retired, and was replaced by a man. Since he started driving the bus, my son has been telling us about some disturbing stuff going on on the bus - the bus driver making one boy cry, calling several kids idiots and even muttering that one child was an [insert bad word] as he got off the bus. My DS was indignant - after all, grown-ups aren't supposed to DO that stuff. Unfortunately, he sometimes gets in trouble, and I didn't want it to turn into a bus driver vs my son type of thing. The bus has video, but no audio, so I wasn't sure what to do.
My son has started to resent this bus driver (who apparently treats the kids poorly), and has stopped doing what he says on the bus. This is a problem, because he's switching seats while they're moving, opening the windows, etc. So, the bus driver called me, then complained to the school in an effort to get him suspended. I had a long talk with my DS and explained to him that life isn't fair. Sometimes, just like with work, people are nasty, but you still have to do what you're supposed to. My DS promised to follow the rules, and the school agreed not to suspend him from the bus this time.
So, today, I get a call from the school. This morning, the bus driver came to them and claimed that, after he dropped my son off, he passed my son and a friend playing further along his route. He said that my son looked at the bus driver and grabbed his crotch. He was adamant that it was my son, and demanded he be kicked off the bus. He said my son has made this gesture at him before.
The problem? My son was in trouble for acting up on the bus AND DIDN'T LEAVE THE HOUSE AFTER GETTING HOME. The bus manager called me herself, and, after I confirmed that he was at home the whole afternoon, said she thought the bus driver might have made it up!
I don't know where to start with why I'm concerned. What kind of twisted bus driver makes something up to get an 11 yo kicked off the bus? And I'm seriously uncomfortable with the fact that he came up with a sexual allegation. Does that say something about him? They said they're going to confront the bus driver, but my son is supposed to ride the bus tomorrow.
What if he makes up something else, or tries to somehow get my son alone? I really think he should be fired, and I'm thinking about calling them and demanding that happen, or that he at least be removed from my son's route. I think I'm well within my rights to do so, but it is right before Christmas. Help? What would you ladies do?