This mama had to take some drastic steps this past weekend.
A few weeks ago I told my boys that we were going to go through all of their things in their room and donate some toys and clothes. My 10 year old took this as an invitation to go into his room and dump out all their toys, clothes and everything in the world that they own. I tried and tried to get him to clean it up and he would only go in there and pick at it. My oldest would do some but he didn't make the mess.
The Sat before Christmas our landlord had to come over. He saw the room (trust me, I was already embarrassed about it, but I do have other things that I have to take care of, my boys room isn't the only room in the house and the house isn't the only thing in my life- full time school, wife, kids, etc). He told us that if isn't cleaned up he would evict us- we have made it known all along that we want to buy this house, and there is no way we were going to let our kid get us kicked out, plus the rest of the house was clean!
I had already made it clear to them that since they were out of school, enough was enough- I was fed up and the room was to be cleaned or the 10 year old wasn't getting Christmas. After the landlord left, I told him no video games, no leaving the house or anything until it was clean. I told his dad and his grandparents what was going on and they all agreed and took his Christmas away as well (I know, not very nice, but he had to get the point that it had to be done). My oldest got to cleaning immediately even though he didn't make the mess. He loves this house and doesn't want to move.
The 10 year old was still dragging his feet. On Sunday he took 4 hours to clean out from under his bed and night stand. He would come tell me it was done and he still had several things under each. I couldn't even feed them lunch because I said we couldn't leave the house and I couldn't go back on my word because I know my son was testing what I said by not doing what I told him too. He likes to test his boundaries and I can't let him push one or he will push them all.
Sorry this was so long.