Anyone have a DD who has a mom who is WAY TOO INVOLVED???
DD is 13 - in 7th grade.
My DD is friends with a girl who's mom calls me about EVERYTHING. It's getting out of control. Even things that are NOT TRUE. I understand my DD's position - she wants to remain peaceful with this girl on campus, and is afraid if she just stops talking completely it will cause drama. But this girl tells her mother so many things that are out of left field I just don't know what to do anymore. I understand girls will say silly things to eachother but I feel like this mother is documenting everything that's said, lol.
My DD has not managed it very well and is not quite there yet as far as strength. She gets scared. I went and read through her text messages yesterday and although she tells me she doesn't want to be friends with her, her text messages are giving this little girl the wrong message. What's more upsetting from my end is, after reading her text messages I asked her why she talks so horribly about this little girl when it clearly sounds as if she wants to be friends with her. I 'have never disapproved of their friendship or told her that so I'm puzzled as to why my DD is like this. It actually concerns me.
I started lecturing my DD on being "real". And if she doesn't care for someone, it's OK to not be best friends with them. Actually, I feel like I've been on top of these things since she was 7 or 8.
Anyhow, I'm thinking of taking my DD's phone away from her bc all this has gotten to be strange.
Has anyone experienced this?