I have been trying different things to work with my 11 year old son. I have made a post or 2 in here about the issues we have and they are still on going.
I am tried of the arguing, fighting and yelling. I have come to the conclusion that nothing I do will change/fix the problem. I am not sure exactly what the problem is, but I would love to fix it.
He flat out refuses to do any chores, and if he does them, he takes forever and still they are not done correctly. I tell him to do something he says no, will stand there and refuse. He is disrespectful and rude. At some point I made a mistake, a mistake that I can not correct.
I have taken everything from him, I mean packed it in bins and put it in the attic so he had nothing. I have limited how much clothes he has(won't do his laundry), so he has no choice but to wash his clothes(didn't work), I have grounded him, I have threathened to send him to spend the summer with his Aunt and Uncle(Marine), I even turned his chores to jobs and made him start paying rent, electric, water, etc so he could see what it is like to be an adult and then threathened with boot camp(he started asking to go).
I am totally at a loss as to what I have done wrong.
As long as he is doing what he wants and doesn't have to do anything, he is fine, but as soon as I open my mouth and tell him to do anything it all changes!