From my SO :( take the gaming equipment out of the bedroom, and when they won't get off take it away. You are the parent.
Oh yes. Our ds (also 14) loves to play on his computer. every now and then we just have to take it away so he finds something else to do, but he does always get his homework done (straight A's), picks up his room, takes out/down the garbage and whatever else we ask...so we aren't too hard core about it. He can get obsessed with the game (it is a creating type game, so it can take a long time to build things), but then I remember how he was obsessed with different things at different ages (legos, puzzles, etc). He is still polite and well mannered, so I guess I'm not too worried. DD is also getting to the age where she won't hardly leave her room. Reads or watches tv on her kindle, talks non-stop to her best friend, and does perler beads for hours, lol.
Limit the time. My son's time is limited to an hour on school nights, and he can't play before 10 am on weekends.
If you are going somewhere and they won't get off the Xbox, say they can't play it the next day.
My DS is the same way. He is 12, as far as I can remember he has always been a homebody and loves the computer, ipod, video games, whatever. I hate it.
i just tell my kids no. they have to ask before they can even turn the xbox on in their play room. we don't have cable so they use it to also watch netflix and hulu. we got them an xbox remote and the controllers have to stay in the living room. it is impossible to play a game with the remote. if they are playing a game and won't turn it off i just power it off. i have only had to do that once. when they ask and i let them play before they even turn it on i tell them that if they throw a fit when i tell them to turn it off they lose the privilege to play games for one week. the xbox has a family timer. so you can set it for a certain amount of time for each day, per week, etc. it will give the choice to add more time or shut off console when time is up. you have to put in a code to add more time.
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