OK so my dd who is 12 wanted to sign up for softball this year. There were no tryouts or anything just show up to open gym. She is very clumsy and I saw other girls laughing at her. I don't want to tell her to quit because she seems to like it. She is not good at athletics and does not know any of the girls there. Hoe do I break it to her? Let her find out the hard way? Advice please!
Quoting nebcutie:
Dont, take her and practice alot and help her get better. :)
My dh never does anything with the girls. I never played softball in my life. I am going to ask him to help out more.
Let her have fun. If she enjoys it let her play. Make sure to let her know that you are proud of her accomplishments, no matter how small. Practice with her. You don't have to know anything about softball, just toss the ball around, practice some hitting. Find a teammate or neighbor who might work with her. But if she is having fun and she is getting exercise that is a very good thing. I have coached plenty of soccer players that were not athletic along with their athletic peers and they still had fun. I tried to make sure those girls played positions that they were more comfortable with when possible to help with their confidence.
My coach taught me how to keep my left handed swing from going foul . I even managed to make it to first a couple of times.
She needs to prove ( or disprove) her athletic skills to herself with a coach helping. F*ck the other girls. If this is what she wants to try, then honestly, it's your place to support her, not " break it to her that you think she's wasting her time.
I think you should just keep quiet and let her do the best she can do. She will never learn how to do anything if you tell her she can't. Who cares if the other girls were laughing at her. That's part of growing up. Maybe after a few days of practice and coaching she will get the hang of it. I sucked my first time at Fast Pitch Softball my freshmen year. But I played regular softball from T-Ball up until my senior year. I was great at it, but not when it came to the fast pitch part of it, until I got the hang of it after a week of practice.
Why would you tell her that? She can't get better until she practices, no one is just good right away. Just let her play for fun, it's not all about being good and winning. Praise her for trying.
I'm sure she would love if her dad helped out. But you can help her, too. I never played softball except in PE, but that wouldn't stop me from helping my girls if they needed me.
Quoting autiemama516:
Quoting nebcutie:
Dont, take her and practice alot and help her get better. :)
My dh never does anything with the girls. I never played softball in my life. I am going to ask him to help out more.
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Don't say anything negative. You may be surprised. If this is a no tryout team YOU may be her worst critic! She will see (probably already has) that she is not one of the best on the team. If they come to accept her, and encourage her, and she gets to have the team experience, that's great!! If it starts to get ugly with her teammates, talk to the coach. As long as she/he has a positive attitude, it will still be okay.
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- autiemama516
on Mar. 13, 2013 at 6:53 PM