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Posted by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 11:02 PM
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My 10 year old daughter has been asking for a cell phone for sometime now. My husband and I don't feel it is necessary since she is with us pretty much all the time or somewhere where we can reach her, but since some of her friends have one she thinks she should have one. What age do you think is appropriate or did you already get your child a phone. She really wants the iPhone. 

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Jinx-Troublex3
by Bronze Member on Apr. 2, 2013 at 11:33 PM
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We don't base on age, but need. Until you are going places on your own, without direct supervision, you don't get a cell phone.

It is a tool, not a toy in my house and friends don't make policy, DH and I do!

That said, both my boys got phones at 12 1/2 yo. The oldest because he went to the opposite coast for 21 days to national BSA Jamboree and the other because he is cast in a community theater play and I drop him off and don't really know any of the staff. After the production is over, the phone goes back in my care until needed again.
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amyjean2001
by on Apr. 2, 2013 at 11:38 PM


Thanks :) That is how I feel and I think I will talk to my husband about not having the phone while at home, I like that idea too.

Quoting Jinx-Troublex3:

We don't base on age, but need. Until you are going places on your own, without direct supervision, you don't get a cell phone.

It is a tool, not a toy in my house and friends don't make policy, DH and I do!

That said, both my boys got phones at 12 1/2 yo. The oldest because he went to the opposite coast for 21 days to national BSA Jamboree and the other because he is cast in a community theater play and I drop him off and don't really know any of the staff. After the production is over, the phone goes back in my care until needed again.



M4LG5
by Valeri on Apr. 3, 2013 at 12:41 AM
Same as pp, I won't give it to them until I NEED them to have it mostly because they will not be with an adult who has a phone. Right now....they are always with an adult so no need.
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VickyJoJo
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 6:53 AM
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 My daughter got a phone at 10 but it was due to need.  She had an activity that did not have a hard stop at a specific time and therefore needed to call me to pick her up.  You have to judge too - is your daughter responsible; what will be your rules of use, etc. 

 

While my DD has an iPhone now (she is 13), her first phone was a basic phone/texting phone.  No internet access.  We did want the texting feature - sometimes kids are in positions that they want mom/dad to get them out of (uncomfortable at a party) but are reluctant to call since it is uncool.  Instead of sticking it out, they are more likely to text to be picked up and can thus save face while still getting out of a situation.

TwinSoccerMom
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:00 AM

I have two 14-year-olds and they don't have phones.  They won't until they start driving and may need them in an emergency.  They do have iPods where they can text their friends who have Apple devices.

Their agruement that "all their friends have one" actually works in our favor because if all their friends have one they don't need one, they can use someone else's phone to call us.  Let their parents pay the monthly phone bill.  :-)

They are now in 8th grade and are very involved in sports and other afterschool activiites but the coaches and their friends always have a phone they can use.  They walk home from school but we live in a small town and they literally walk by 4-5 houses on their short way home that are relatives or close family friends that are typically home during the day and they can go to their house and use their phone if needed.

coolmommy2x
by Bronze Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:17 AM
DS is 12 and has had a phone for a year. He has a regular phone...he can make calls, take pictures and text. He barely does anything. He really wants a smartphone but we don 't think he needs one at this age. He's not happy about it but I don't think kids need smartphones.
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kerri1205
by Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 9:23 AM

We do not have a land line so this past Christmas, our oldest was 11 1/2 got a phone.  It is just one with text and talk, he has his ipod for games, etc...  We just figured that at his age friends weren't going to call mom's cell phone.  He has never been a sociable kid and we did not want that to be a road block from making new friends in middle school.

KristenLystly
by on Apr. 3, 2013 at 10:56 AM
Just something to keep in mind with smart phones, iPods and computers: the wonderful wide world of smut / pornography is just a click or a tap away. Parental controls are a must if you want to prevent them from having free , unlimited access to that.

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somuchlove4U
by Member on Apr. 3, 2013 at 11:01 AM
No phone until she can pay for it. She is 11 now and has been asking since she was 8. There isn't a need now as she is with us almost all the time.
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KelleLynn
by on Apr. 4, 2013 at 9:12 AM
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Both of my daughters have phones (9 & 11). The phones are the older style slide phones with no internet/data. They can call, text and take pics. This is due to the convienence for me, I can reach them at anytime and ex cant say he doesnt have a way to communicate with them. I have several rules with the phone however and a few examples are: 1. You will always answer my call. 2. No phones once you come in to house unless its to talk with family. 3. I am the only one who listens to vm 4. I am the only one who gets to delete things (yes I compare the # of texts on their phones to the # of texts listed on bill). 5. it is your resposiblility to charge the phone, if its dead you dont go out until its charged....they also arent allowed to have any #'s that arent attached to a name, no name-dont answer.

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