What am I going to do with her?

[Ms.Momma2U]

  My daughter is 11 and over all she is the typical tween with sweet tendencies. (best way to explain it) Now I know kids this age start rebelling in their own little ways. Like cussing around their friends when adults are not around...I over hear it from a lot of tweens. But my daughter is starting to cuss in front of me. Like B*tch, sh*t, d*mn, etc. Oh and the one I really hate hoe or ho not sure how to spell that. But her friends say this as well as many young girls when referring to their friends.

Anyway, I do not want my child cussing and definitely not around me. I will get on to her and make her stay home for a couple days and I even tried making her taste a bar of soap...she just bites a chunk of the soap off and don't seem to mind staying home. Her mouth is out of control and sure I am the *cool* mom but this is uncalled for.

  She has been a sweet child, always so polite up until a month or so ago when her boobs  got even bigger (36 C) and her figure became more mature. Sounds silly I know, but seriously, it's driving me crazy. I need some advice on this if ya have any, please.

 Life is short, Break some rules.......

[onecrazymom]

Hm.  I don't know what to tell you.  My tween AND my teen know better than to use language like that.  I'm also "the cool mom," and I'm not a prude, etc.  They just know they better not use that language.  I never told them not to... so I can't tell you what I do to make them speak correctly.  They just don't do it.

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[momof2girls129]

The worst i have heard my 12 yr old dd say is jesus christ and i told her that if i hear it one more time she is getting popped and eating soap...havent heard it since. But i also told her i dont want her saying it even when she isnt around me. I refuse to tolerate that kind of behavior and she knows it. I am not my dd's friend i am her mom i dont even try to be the cool mom i let her know whats up and that is that.

[alienbody]

Each families values are different. I've told my kids that adult words are part of our language and they convey a meaning and they have a power of their own. I've also said that they are words that are not appropriate for kids, but I know they will use them and to be careful when and where and how. I told them that it's easy to cuss and everyone does it, so be creative in how they communicate. They are not allowed to cuss around us or any other adult and they need to be respectful, but when they are with their friends, they just need to be smart about it.

I'm taking the fun out of cuss words for them and they don't even know it. I will have enough to deal with with all the pre and teen angst, words are the least of my worries. If I give them some power and control over it, but limit when and where....then hopefully I'll hang on to some sanity!

[vtmommyof2bratz]

mine tried the cuss words a long while ago but we created words for them and us to use that would help them get their frustration out but without the nasty swears like sugar, fudge etc after a few times it just became boring ot them , the one i hate hearing now that my 12 yr old says all the time is friggin

[kidos]

well i know what you mean when you say hoe it seems to be the way they talk ..desensitized to what the true meaning is i just don't think they really understand what they are referring themselves and there friends too...my oldest dd was offended by the world hoe and never really used it not like her friends did ,but my 13 year old and her friends do use it and i have told her how ugly and horrible it sounds and its just yuck and there for a while i think she was just saying it to see what i would do or whatever some times if they know it bothers you they think its funny but i just ignore it and told her if she ever called me one to my face she would get in to trouble because she has a friend that calls her own mom a hoe to her face she says she is joking but i don't think it funny ...it breaks down the respect for you parents and stuff ...well i know how girls can be at this age i ve gone threw it twice and i have one more dd to go threw it again its hard and confusing but the rules change at this point the little girl is know longer there in a lot of ways and now its just finding out what dose bother her and then that way she cant do what ever that may be ...keep on trying its not easy being a mom and the rules are always changing ...sure hope it all works out  brenda...

[cmecu2]

Both of my girls know not to use that language at all. They know it's bad and they don't do it. We are very blessed in this. They know how we feel about clothing and they even lift their arms to see if a shirt is too short. It's very cute actually.  So they know how we feel about that and are ok with that. They know how mom feels about makeup and don't question it either.

And we do have all these rules and most of her friends are allowed to wear tons of makeup to school. She is only allowed lip gloss for now. But her friends all respect that and that she's following the rules and I'm still the cool mom as well. It makes me feel good knowing that my daughter repects me that much and doesn't waiver at all even with her friends. I've had other moms tell me that she does this too. She made comments about other girls putting on WAY too much make up and telling them it didn't look good and how you are suppose to wear make up. That makes me proud of her!

In His Name, 

Lisa 8)