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6 Ways to Make Your Daughter’s First Period Less of a Pain

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 10:27 AM
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6 Ways to Make Your Daughter’s First Period Less of a Pain

by Adriana Velez

funky goddessThink back to when you first got your period. Did anyone throw you a party? Congratulate you? Were there presents and hugs? We're all so liberated about everything else now -- why isn't getting your first period treated as a major rite of passage for girls to celebrate? I know it involves vaginas and fluids and... okay, no one wants to dwell on those aspects too much. But I think it's still an occasion worth marking.

People have been trying to make menarche a THING for years, mostly in a super-granola, earnest kind of way. Hippie packaging, use of the words MOON and WISDOM and the like -- gee, I wonder why the first period gift back concept hasn't hit main stream?!? But it's getting better. Here's a few more modern gift boxes and ideas that might actually appeal to girls in the year 2013.

Period Packs: These are gift boxes for the special girl in your life who just met her Aunt Flow got her first period. (I promise not to load this post with cheesy euphemisms.) They're super-girly in the right way, tossing together tampons and The Period Book with goodies like chocolate and nail polish. I would have loved it when I was that age.

Funky Goddess: These gift boxes include a mini hot water bottle with sweet cozy, the book What's Happening to Me?, a "pencil case" where girls can stow their pads and tampons, an eye mask, and a bracelet which they may or may not like, depending on their taste. The whole presentation is beautiful, though I think the name might be a little too hokey. Also, this is an Irish company, so shipping is probably expensive.

Dot Girl: Forget all that red and pink. Dot Girl First Period Kits are non-nonsense kits for more serious-minded girls. It includes a 20-page question and answer booklet, a period diary, a heating gel pack, pads, disposal bags, and hand wipes. It's as if Eleanor Roosevelt designed this pack.

Make your own pack: Wikihow.com has a list of items you could include in your First Period Kit. (I say, avoid anything scented.) You may be able to find some free samples for your kit. And then throw in a few treats -- fun items you know your daughter will love. I don't think your kit should be all serious.

Special dinner: I think the idea of throwing a period party... I don't know, could be fun, if your daughter likes the idea. But a more low-key idea is just to have a special dinner. Maybe she brings along her BFF, and you eat out or fix her favorite meal.

TALK: Tell your daughter about your own first experience -- even if it was awful. Have a laugh. Explain to her how her cycle works and show her how she can use a calendar. She may not be regular at first, but it's a good habit to start. Tell her how often to change her things. Make sure she knows this his healthy and not gross or shameful. And please, resist the temptation to tell her she's a "woman" now because no she is not, and that just makes girls feel wierd. (Says my younger self.)

Did you do anything special to celebrate your daughter's first period?

by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 10:27 AM
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wyomom4
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 10:44 AM
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 Both of my two older daughters would have been mortified if we made any kind of big deal about it. My youngest (11) would probably go nuts for something like this when she starts her cycle though. I try to stay with whatever they are comfortable with.

wakymom
by Silver Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 12:11 PM

 Dd is only 7, so we're not there yet, but I'll take her lead on it.

 

 

 

 

 

Khanfan
by on Jul. 13, 2013 at 10:38 AM

My dd started last year.  I had talked to her a few times about the egg and sperm and the blood that feeds the egg when it is fertilized and the body gets rid of the blood.  She likes science so that was easy.  When I noticed I had in my bathroom 3 different types of feminine hygene supplies I decided to explain those to her. Dang if she didn't start her period the next day.  And she knows where the pain reliever is and how to ak for it..  My mom let me suffer except she did get me the kit that was sold at school.

Thanks for posting this info.

scapermom
by Member on Jul. 13, 2013 at 11:44 AM

Thanks! I've been looking for something like this for my DD 11. She hasn't started yet, but I'm sure it's not far off (she's got all the other puberty signs & I got mine when I was 11). I did buy her a Kotex Tween pack - it has smaller sized pads & liners in cool colored wraps. We've gone through various books about puberty too. I like the idea of these kits, think DD would appreciate it as well, though don't think the special dinner or party would fly.

Eve-marie
by on Jul. 13, 2013 at 1:32 PM

She is only 7 and freaks out at every little thing so I haven't even told her about it yet. I'm hoping she is mature enough in a couple years to hear the news.

mjande4
by Member on Jul. 13, 2013 at 3:21 PM

This.  I really do NOT understand WHY anyone would think to celebrate the start of bleeding every month for the next 40 years.  SMH


Quoting wyomom4:

 Both of my two older daughters would have been mortified if we made any kind of big deal about it. My youngest (11) would probably go nuts for something like this when she starts her cycle though. I try to stay with whatever they are comfortable with.



Randijt154
by Member on Jul. 13, 2013 at 4:16 PM
Different strokes for different folks. Some women want their daughters to celebrate womanhood (myself included) and all that comes with it. Being a woman is a wonderful thing, even the pain in the behind menstral cycles. Just my view.


Quoting mjande4:

This.  I really do NOT understand WHY anyone would think to celebrate the start of bleeding every month for the next 40 years.  SMH



Quoting wyomom4:

 Both of my two older daughters would have been mortified if we made any kind of big deal about it. My youngest (11) would probably go nuts for something like this when she starts her cycle though. I try to stay with whatever they are comfortable with.





mjande4
by Member on Jul. 13, 2013 at 4:19 PM

I showed my daughter this and she said she and her friends would all have been MORTIFIED.  I definitely agree different strokes.  There are plenty of ways to celebrate being a woman that don't need to be connected to a placenta. Of course the day my daughter started she had two dance concerts back to back with a swim meet the following day.  Talk about learning to use a tampon fast and rolling with it.


Quoting Randijt154:

Different strokes for different folks. Some women want their daughters to celebrate womanhood (myself included) and all that comes with it. Being a woman is a wonderful thing, even the pain in the behind menstral cycles. Just my view.


Quoting mjande4:

This.  I really do NOT understand WHY anyone would think to celebrate the start of bleeding every month for the next 40 years.  SMH



Quoting wyomom4:

 Both of my two older daughters would have been mortified if we made any kind of big deal about it. My youngest (11) would probably go nuts for something like this when she starts her cycle though. I try to stay with whatever they are comfortable with.







Randijt154
by Member on Jul. 13, 2013 at 7:17 PM
Omg! Poor girl!


Quoting mjande4:

I showed my daughter this and she said she and her friends would all have been MORTIFIED.  I definitely agree different strokes.  There are plenty of ways to celebrate being a woman that don't need to be connected to a placenta. Of course the day my daughter started she had two dance concerts back to back with a swim meet the following day.  Talk about learning to use a tampon fast and rolling with it.



Quoting Randijt154:

Different strokes for different folks. Some women want their daughters to celebrate womanhood (myself included) and all that comes with it. Being a woman is a wonderful thing, even the pain in the behind menstral cycles. Just my view.





Quoting mjande4:

This.  I really do NOT understand WHY anyone would think to celebrate the start of bleeding every month for the next 40 years.  SMH




Quoting wyomom4:

 Both of my two older daughters would have been mortified if we made any kind of big deal about it. My youngest (11) would probably go nuts for something like this when she starts her cycle though. I try to stay with whatever they are comfortable with.











Truluv4ever
by Member on Jul. 15, 2013 at 11:30 PM
These are near, I love some of the ideas! I am going to start making one of these kits for my daughter tomorrow!! She's 11 and her older sisters had their 1st. Period when they were 11. Thanks for this post!
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