Ok so dd is 11 yrs old.
She is an ISP class for SN kids. She is intrograded into regular classroom settings for certain subjects like music, science, history, gym and a few others.
She is severly behind in reading (but getting better) she is behind in math as well, but only behind by 2 grades, where as reading she is behind by 4 grade levels. She is ODD ADHD, Aspergers, has cognitive delay.
Now we had a consult yesterday at a child and family centre to look at bettering our option with her counceling and therapy for her ODD and her compulsive anger issues that she has and having a hard time controling.
They threw disability for her on the table. And I am uncomfortable with it. I mean in a lot of ways it will up us with the free therapy and counceling and tutoring programs that they offer for kids who are "only" on disability. I can pay for all her treatments that is not an issue, but it would be nice for us to have above average options for her, from more qualified professionals then what she would get without being on disability.
But my major concern is, that she will be labeled has disabled for the rest of her life. She is very smart in the areas that really speak to her, and she can function normally, she just has trouble in certain areas, like the reading is number 1, she just does not get it, no matter how much we work on it its a huge struggle for her.
But around here once a child is labeled as disabled and gets on disability it is a life long thing. I do not want this for my dd. I have 2 friends who were put on disability as young children and it has hindered both of them for college options and as well as in the work force. I know it is going to take a lot of work for my dd to pull herself up by the time she graduates from high school (only grade 6 now) But I 100% believe it can be done.
She wants to be an Architect. But the high school she wants to attend that has an amazing prep program into that field is all advanced classess. From math to science to english and so on. This is my dd's dream, she is obsessed with this being her profession. And I believe she can do it. Yes its going to take a lot of hard work from her and myself to get her there and its my top prority in life to get her there.
I am just so....blah about this. I keep thinking that the extra resources that come with it will help her with her education. But by getting her "labeled" in this manor she will never have the option/choice to get into that school EVER. And without it she cannot get into the college courses she needs to be a architect.
What do I do????
If it was your child how would you proceed with this? I dont want to make the wrong decsion for her, its her life. I am just so confused right now on what to do. I want to help her embrace her dreams to the fullest, and I believe her dream is very realistict to be an architect we just really need to work on those important math skills that go along with building. She wants to make a difference, her goal is to design and build homes for the less fortunate. She wants to work for homes for habitat. (awesome)
On a second note. I am a little annoyed at a rule her schools has.
since she is in the ISP class she is not allowed to take french class EVER, they do not allow it. DD had french class in her elementary school from kinder to grade 5 and she is really good in french, all A's every year. I had no idea she didnt take french at her Junior High school. Here teacher called on Friday and said she just noticed that she had taken it at her last school and how well she had did in it. And said she would talk to the principal about working something out in the class schedule and sending dd to take french.....and he said NO. She is not allowed to take it. DD is very sad about this too, she loves french. I think its stupid she cant take it.
And she would only miss art class to take french too, if it were english or math I would agree that she would need to stay in her ISP class to take math, but its art, dd loves art class but would love to continue in french. So now for the next 3 years she will not have french, but then it will be mandatory to take in high school. Blah.....what do we do, I am not french at all so I cant teach her french.