My son turns 12 on may 13. He is a great kid, respectful, helpful and kind. He how ever has a problem of taking things that don't belong to him. Just today I found him with a smart phone that does not belong to him. He did confess that he stole it cos he wanted a smart phone so bad. He currently has a regular basic phone which he can use to keep in touch with his friends at school as well as me. He also has a tablet, xbox, and a wii at home. So I don't think he needs a smartphone he has enough. Occasionally I will take away his tablet for a period when he misbehaves and this was within the timeframe that he stole the phone to played games on it.
I will make him take the phone back to whoever he took it from and apologize, I also did give him some lashes in his hand for stealing. but at this time as a parent I'm not sure what I'm doing that's wrong. Does he really needs a smart phone to keep up with his friends??? Is this the appropriate time to stop using the cane and just talk things over? What other punishments would work besides taking things away?