11y o DD received inappropriate picture on cell phone....!!!

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  • jjamom
  on Jan. 6, 2009 at 10:12 AM

• I just saw this for the first time, so I quickly read through the comments.  I won't even get into that LOL!  But, here's my opinion, and a question.

  Did this boy's parents ever get in touch with you?  If not, either this boy is lying and never told his Mother (which is probably the case) or they have a serious issue.  His parent's should not be ignoring this.  If he won't give your DD his home phone number, I'd ask her where they live and go over there - and I'd take my DH with me.  These parents either need to be informed that their son is sending explicit material from his cell phone, or they need a wake up call!  Atleast you'd know where they stood on the issue.

  I agree it's probably stupid kid stuff, but he needs to know that what he is doing is wrong, and what harmful trouble he could be getting himself into.  If I were his parents, I'd want to know so that I could intervene.

  I also wouldn't punish my DD unless I found out that she was sending inappropriate pics/texts too.  It doesn't really sound like she's done anything.  I'd use it as a learning opportunity with her...

  Let us know what happens with the parents...

  

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  • Somebody_Loved
  on Jan. 6, 2009 at 1:32 PM

• That is a WONDERFUL idea!! I will definatly remember that when it comes time to venture into the cell phone world with my kids!
  

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  We just gave my DS a phone (age 13) for Christmas.  We had him sign a contract with the terms that we would allow him to keep his phone and any misuse would mean he could lose it. 

  Anyone giving a phone should really think hard about as many the things a kid could possibly do to misuse it and set up the guidelines for usage and make it clear that they will lose their phone if it is misused. If more people did this there might not be as many problems...(imho)

  
  

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  • mamato2grls
  on Jan. 8, 2009 at 8:01 AM

• no no do not involve the school...just because someone is of school age does not mean the school needs to be involved...sorry, its none of the schools business unless it happened at school.  This sounds like just a young boy, and yes he is a boy, he liked a girl and did something really dumb.  To the OP I would talk to the boys mom or dad and make it clear to your DD she can not have anyhing to do with this boy right now
  

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  Do I need to post all of the links by google searching "teen cell phone child porn"

  There's WAYYYYYYYYYY too many of these going to the COURTS and these children being put on sex offender lists. It's out of control.  I'd NEVER consider going to the authorities or the school (who's required to report it to the police).

  The legal system in THIS scenaro is way out of line and treating the situations completely wrong. Until its fixed, i'd never resort to it or tell anyone to resort to it.

   

  It is infact a legal issue. The boy produced an indecent picture of his penis, which will be deemed as child pornography. He can be arrested and convicted as an adult in most states, for creating and distributing child pornography, possession of child pornography, corruption of a minor, sexual offense against a child, indecent exposure to a child.

  ALL of the above can be charged to this child, and under the Adam Walsh Act, this boy would be required to register as a sex offender FOR HIS ENTIRE LIFE.

  I'm not aruging the right or wrong of sex offender lists or laws. Im stating what could happen to this child.  And for those of you who dont beleive it is happening, wake up.

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  He is not a SEXUAL OFFENDER at 11! It's childish BS that needs to be stoped! and it will not be stoped with out a mediation! And who say's he's only 11 too????  we dont know how old he is..... at 11, she's probably 6th grade...... he could be 14-15....  an 8th grader??? either way....... I disagree, that as a young child he would get conviceted as a sexual offender....... it's not a legal issue! it is a moral one! and the only way it could go legal is if mama wants it too....

   

  Im glad I was singled out for my opinion! when several others agree with me!  WAKE UP YOUR SELF!!! The school NEED'S TO BE INVOLVED!!!!!!!!!
  

  I agree with this. i would involve the school. If he is sending this kind of stuff to this little girl what is he sending to other students? I would rather have my child safe than worry about the outcome of the little boy. He knows right from wrong and he made the choice to do something that is inappropriate and should be made to face the consequences.

  
  

  

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