Hi, I'm trying to find out if I may be too harsh on my 10 year old. He got himself grounded for leaving the house without permission 2 days ago and I had to ground him. I even took away the privilege to go and watch the fireworks for the second year in a row.
No, definetly not. If my daughter were to leave our house without permission she would be grounded for a long time and doing extra chores. There are some things that are unacceptable because they are rude or impolite in some way and then there are those like this that are wrong due to safety. Safety issues are always punished more harshly in our house and fireworks would not be the only thing she would be missing. You stick with it and don't feel bad about teaching your son right from wrong.
I've never had this issue and I can only imagine how upset you must have been. I think your response was appropriate for the age and the situation.
The sad thing is we should only punish with things we can carry through on. Sometimes we punish out of anger and end up going too far. Only you can decide. Maybe tell him he can choose to go to fire works with you, but if he does he has two more days grounding in place of it, or dishes for a couple. You have to decide whats right for your little guy.
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Quoting PJMcCampbell:
He went to a friends house and was playing on her porch. She wasn't even out side. He never told us why. We had told him to go to his room fora different punishment I cant even rebember why he got sent to his room.
Do I understand... he was in his room for a punishment, but left from that punishment, went to a girls house, and was playing with her?
Id come down VERY VERY hard on that.... not only did he leave with out permission but he broke a punishment. Yes, I think you did the right thing.
IMO you have to come down VERY hard on things like that and make a huge impression
Sounds like a rebellous teen to me. I just put the fear of stranger danger into mine and she always tells me when she is heading outside. You could hire someone, like a police officer to scare yours. I heard this works. Hers was doing same and she decided to teacher hers a lesson that the child never forgot. Nope, not to harsh, time to put the fear of what ever into that child. Good luck.
I have so had this problem with my 13 year old boy, It has made it hard to trust him too, as he lied about it. We grounded him and he lost privileges, but I don't know that it will really stop him from trying something like that again. My 10 year old daughter wouldn't do that, I don't think anyway, she is a lot more cautious than the boy.
They are all little angels, hehe.
Sounds like you did the right thing. I have a 10 year old daughter and she gets anxious sometimes but if she were to leave and not tell me.....oh yeah....she would be in for it!! Good luck!
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- PJMcCampbell
on Jul. 3, 2009 at 8:10 PM