My son is age 12 usually mild mannered but does lie to cover up & have seen some mean streaks in him when it comes to his sister. My daughter is 10 & very emotional. I don't want to give alot of details making this a very long & boring story, however I am fed up with the fighting, screaming at each other, name calling, & punching/hitting eachother. At times, they can be the best of friends & other days they want to kill eachother. If anyone has any advice for me I would sincerely appreciate it. I know some of it is normal, but how much is too much? And what do I do when it's too much - b/c then I start screaming at them & that's not good either. Taking things away from them as a punishment does absolutely nothing! I need your help ladies! Please, I am desperate!
I wish I had some advice to offer, but I'm having the same problem. My 13 year old DS and my 9 year DD fight constantly. I thought it would be better once school got back into session since they are in separate bldgs. But no, they usually start fighting from the moment they wake up until bedtime. They can't even breakfast at the same time. I have one take a shower while the other one is in the kitchen. My 13 year blames his sister for all his problems. He is really loud when he gets mad so I hear him, but my DD has mastered how to antagonize him being very quiet. I have grounded them, I have made them do their chores together, taken their privileges away. I'm at my wits end too. My husband has even threatened that they would have to stand by the road and hug each other - lol!! I wish you luck!
Quoting roudybunch:I wish I had some advice to offer, but I'm having the same problem. My 13 year old DS and my 9 year DD fight constantly. I thought it would be better once school got back into session since they are in separate bldgs. But no, they usually start fighting from the moment they wake up until bedtime. They can't even breakfast at the same time. I have one take a shower while the other one is in the kitchen. My 13 year blames his sister for all his problems. He is really loud when he gets mad so I hear him, but my DD has mastered how to antagonize him being very quiet. I have grounded them, I have made them do their chores together, taken their privileges away. I'm at my wits end too. My husband has even threatened that they would have to stand by the road and hug each other - lol!! I wish you luck!
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to see if anyone has anything else to give.
my kids are 15, 12 , 10 and 4 and the 15 and 12 year old fight constantly. I have found out that embarrasing them works well. We have made them stand up and hug and kiss each other at a restaraunt because of the bickering. it was classic but worked very well in that instance.
I think everyone that has more than one child who are at less than 5-7 years a part has had this problem. I have tried making them kiss and make up, giving time outs, taking away priviledges, ignoring etc. Some things work for a bit and then it starts up again. A friend told me once that she had girls a couple of years apart and when they were young they fought constantly. She finally duct taped them together back to back and made them do stuff cooperatively for a few hours. She never had any more trouble with them fighting. I about died laughing. I don't know what CPS would have to say about that today but I am almost desperate enough to try it lol. Right now I have just put written rules into place with written consequences. Not hitting etc is one of the rules. Only time and consistancy will tell whether it works this time lol.
Kim 
My daughters are 13 & 11 and they fight all the time.And it doesnt help that they have to share a room.They do have days where they get along and do things together,but usually not a day goes by that they dont fight about something.I've tried everything too..yelling,grounding,making them hug and apologize & none of that has worked.So,I just let them go at it,until it's over,and if it gets too rough,I tell them to take it outside in the backyard...LOL (But I want to add that neither one of them has ever seriously hurt the other)
I'm sorry I have no advise I'm in the same boat I have a 16 year old boy who thinks he's dad. I have a 11 year old who is very, very moody and I have an 8 year old who is starting to fight and back talk. They all talk and fight like they hate each other It drives me nuts
missing work mayhem!!!
- 919mom
on Sep. 3, 2009 at 2:51 PM