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[alh21289]

My daughter is almost 3 months old and I'm still not sure if she is colicy or just fussy. In order for her to go to sleep she either has to be rocked by me or scream for sometimes over an hour then pass out. She cries all the time but when I pick her up she stops and smiles. On rare occasion she doesnt even want to be held by me, she just screams and screams. I've already changed her formula 3 times. I'm not sure what to do, or if maybe I spoil her too much..need advice and tips, I have NO idea what to do.

[Wifeepoo]

You can't spoil a 3 month old - I would guess something is going on. What formulas have you tried? My daughter ended up being intolerant to both milk and soy and had to go on a hypoallergenic formula (expensive!) Or she could have acid reflux, very common. I would keep talking to your pediatrician and keep looking for a reason.

[julielawyer]

If you aren't sure that it's colic then I would think it isn't colic.  Combined with her being consolable my guess is she is just a "high needs" baby.  I say do what makes her happy unless you can't and she might gorw out of this extreme needyness in a month or two as her brain developes more.  She might not know that you don't disapper if she can't see you.    If she wants to be held all the time and you want to get stuff done try wearing her with a baby carrier.  I agree that you can't spoil 3 month old.  

I know I'm letting my son train me and he has done a very good job of it.  He's over 6 months old now and has only slept one hour in his crib.  Since he was 4 months old he's been sleeping in a swing chair all night.  I'm not ready to break his habit yet since my husband has to be out of town for 2 months.  If my husband was here we would probily be trying to break his habit now and would expect 2 to 4 bad nights before he got the idea that this is how things are going to be.  But he not colicly anymore thank goodness but he's still high needs. 

[sabastian]

Hi,

I wen through the same thing 3months ago my baby is 5 months . thank God Im out of the colic area. my baby had  bad colic pains his formula was changes 5 times , from similac,isomil,sensitive,isomil advanse,genteleasy, the doctor thought he needed to see a gastroinerologist if the last formula didn't work.  now nutremigen and so far he is doing great. he gigles so much I even think he is crying , I can do so much now at home now.before I couldnt even go to the store i had to leav him with his dad.  But now You see him & YOU WILL NEVER GUESS HE HAD colic at all he is such a hapy baby.

[Margee30]

my advice......

wether its colic or not, dont think you are spoiling her.  in my opionon, they are only this tiny once, and you only get this chance to sooth them and hold them for a short time.  i have had two colicy babies, and i did whatever i could to make the crying stop.  but what worked best for me was movement.  get yourself a good comfy rocking chair, try swadeling her, then rock that girl til she falls fast asleep.  then try laying her down all wrapped up.  is she wakes, let her complain a short time, then try agian.  honestly, its all about the trial and error.  i wish you the best of luck, and just remember, it does get easier!

[mommyramos21]

she might just need some more (or less) stimulation. my older daughter was very fussy early on, but i found using a baby carrier helped a lot. she liked to be looking at everything and seeing what was going on, so i'd keep her in a bouncy seat or the front pack and by the time i was done with household chores, she was more than ready for sleep. you could try that or if it's too much stimulation, try making where your baby sleeps a "sleep haven": low noise levels, dark shades, whatever and see if that helps. colic and acid reflux usually result in EXTREME crying and wailing. i'm talking hours. you'll know. but if you're still not sure, just ask some other moms in this group and they can probably help you figure out if your baby has it or not.