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Colic and PPD **UPDATE**

Posted by on Feb. 5, 2009 at 1:35 AM
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First I want to say thank you to the ladies who commented. Your advice was wonderful and it's comforting to know I'm not alone.

I started taking my son to the chiropractor and I have to say I've seen a major difference. His discomfort has subsided and his crying is almost non-existant. I am so happy that I have found something that makes my little boy happy and comfortable.

 

My son was born November 22 and started his every night crying around Christmas. It seems to be getting worse. I've tried Mylicon, Gripe Water, warm baths in his bedtime routine, a hot water bottle on his tummy.... Yea, it may not be as bad as some of you ladies have had it, he only cries at night, but I don't know what to do anymore. He's so happy during the day, smlies and laughs a lot, but when night comes he's a totally different baby. I've been handling it ok but this past week has been rough. I'm really depressed. I hate that he has to go through this. I hate that I have to go through this. I feel like a failure as a mother cuz I can't comfort my own baby. I sit and cry with him cuz I have no idea what to do. I don't feel connected to my son and I'm afraid he's going to grow up feeling that I don't love him. I have a 4 year old daughter who, if I'm not ignoring (not on purpose), I'm yelling at. She's left to play by herself a lot cuz I'm stuck with my son all the time. He has to be held all the time and will rarely sit in his bouncy seat or lay down unless he's totally asleep. Otherwise he wakes up and cries til he falls asleep in my arms. I live with my mom so I have help, but she's usually helping with my daughter so I hate to burden her even more and ask her to take the baby. My fiance is so overprotective that he's no help. He tries to help but he makes me feel like I'm doing everything wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore.

 


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jlviravec
by on Feb. 5, 2009 at 10:30 AM

I feel like i actually hate my daughter..i really dont think i love her..she doesnt SLEEP..maybe for an hour...then everyday she screams and screams...i cant do this anymore either. I need help as well..i've tried everything along with gas drops and gripe water.

mia480
by on Feb. 7, 2009 at 11:36 AM

You should try chiropractic care as well. It takes time and patience and love. My son is now 7 months old and THANK GOD for Dr. Erickson, he has helped my son so much, sure he's still a gassy boy, but not like he was at 4 weeks til he was 14 weeks old, it was hell for me, i hated myself, i swore to never have another child again, and I too was a colicky baby as well, so i heard stories. I have a 5 yr old daughter and believe me, it is not easy, still. I usually take her out with me, when dh comes home so she and i can have our time together, and let daddy take care of the baby, let him know what ur going through.  At least you mom is helping you, you need it and you r not a burden, she's your mom. Let Fiance do some help to, or it will cause distress in ur relationship, believe me, there wre times i wanted to leave dh and move in with my mom. Good luck to you. pm me anytime

jennblayne
by Member on Feb. 7, 2009 at 2:50 PM

Hi Ladies-

My daughter too...extremely colic....Are you breastfeeding? Formula feeding?? My daughter had an allergy to milk and acid reflux...we would never have even known it if we didn't get the advice of another friend who said that pediatricians are not the be all end all..why don't you take her to  a specialist like a gastro doc.? That is exactly what we did....We tried new formula, medicine for reflux and she was a different baby who slept...the gastro doc. also prescribed mylanta (adult mylanta) and that helped tremendously with gas! No more mylicon..that stuff is the worst!! Maybe you should get the help of another doc. as well?? And ask your pediatrician about the mylanta so they can tell you correct dosage, etc...best of luck...i know exactly how u all feel...you must get out at least 1x/day and take a break..errands, mall, sitting in barnes n noble, ride in car...whatever..u will come back feeling refreshed!

-jenn

mommyramos21
by New Member on Feb. 11, 2009 at 4:53 AM

you are NOT a failure. obviously you love and care about your baby because it hurts you to see your baby hurting. a failure is a mom who just doesn't give a rat's tail about their baby. even thinking you hate your baby means you have some emotional connection to him,  so no worries.

my younger daughter is 5 months old and i have tried every trick there is. i've had her checked for every possible condition. some days some things work for a little while, but mostly, i can pretty much tell you what time it is on the dot between 10 pm and 4 am without ever looking at the clock based on my daughter's screams. i get on average 2 hours of sleep in  a 24 hour period and i wish i could say consecutive but i can't. her cries are so bad now, that she wakes up my 15 month old and by the time one is calmed for a bit the other is up and screaming her round. i am pale, hairy, unshowered (no more than three days straight, though, since my husband has two days off a week) make-up-less, messy haired, stretch-marked all over, beyond exhausted, thin from not eating (okay, thin everywhere except that tire around my middle and the dimpled monstrosities that are my thighs) becuase my choices for my free time are either sleep or eat (and you can guess which i chose). my arms are the only toned part of my body due to constant rocking (and she is BIG). i have humungous circles under my eyes, and about the only time i'm not crying or screaming in frustration is when i'm asleep (you can see how often that is).

some babies just cry (well, you wish it was just crying, anyway). and sometimes you just have to let them. if he's fed, changed, burped, and not sick, don't be afraid to put him in the crib and tune him out for like 20 minutes. it won't hurt him or you. find someone, ANYONE who can take your baby for an hour or so just so you can shower or eat or take a long nap so that when those evening hours arrive, you won't be as stressed. or swap kids with your mom. i bet your 4 year old can be less maintenace than your son, so spend some quiet time with her or even take a nap with her (i do it with mine!) don't take that time to do chores or run errands. you will hate yourself (or your baby) even more. BE SELFISH AND TAKE SOME TIME FOR YOURSELF. because let's face it, no one will care for your baby like you do, and if you can't take care of yourself, even just a tiny bit, your baby won't get the care he needs. he may even be feeding off your tension. i have begun doing this as of two weeks ago when i was at the lowest of lows and just crying almost as much as my daughter and it has worked wonders. i don't always get a break everyday, but when i do, i'm all the better for it. trust your instincts, and remember to breathe. and check in with your doctor. you might truly be suffering from PPD and your out of control hormones may be making you feel even crazier. don't be afraid to be open with your doctor


it will get better and you're not alone.

Annsscreenname
by on Feb. 11, 2009 at 5:21 AM

(((hugs))))

Have you tried a baby sling? I had a little one that would cry like that but as long as I was holding her or had her in a sling she'd be happy and I'd have my hands free for my other little ones. Don't worry about spoiling him this way, I did end up carrying my little one 24/7 until she turned 9 months and began to want down to play on her own, but it was worth it. I have a happy little kid now. :-)

Below is a picture of a sling simular to the one I have.

Good luck and hope things get better soon.

http://www.attachedtobaby.com/Slinglings-Designer-Pouch-Baby-Sling-P194.aspx

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