Adult children but still my house - your thoughts?
I have two adult children. One (21) lives with us along with her 2 year old son. The other (20) is in the Army and set to deploy in the next 60 - 90 days. He'll get a date next week. He's stationed close enough to home that he is often here. The 21 year old works, attends college and has no issue abiding by the rules of this house. The 20 year old, even after several discussions, continues to disrespect our home by refusing to follow the rules. And the rules are not unreasonable. I do not want my son stumbling in here unannounced, after he's told us he will not be home, so drunk he can barely walk. I don't want to create bad blood between us knowing he is going to deploy any time but I'm fed up. I didn't raise him this way. He didn't see this kind of behavior out of us and it isn't acceptable. I'm conflicted and would appreciate knowing someone else's thoughts on the subject.