Household responsibilities of adult children living at home.
I was wondering of someone had any guidelines for what I should expect from my 21 year old living at home as far as chores, cooking, shopping goes. My daughter is 21, living at home, going to college locally and she has a part time job (10 hours a week). What should I expect from her?
I feel very frustrated that I have to remind her to do her chores. Right now she only has to take care of the cats litter box and empty the dishwasher; usually I have to remind her to do that. I feel like she should automatically pitch in and help out more without being asked. Her father and I both work and think she should help out a little more. If she is asked to stop by the store on her way home she acts like she is so put out. She pay none of her bills like car insurance, cell phone etc because only working 10 hours a week she doesn't make enough. We have talked about her getting a different job with more hours but she makes no steps in that direction. She does pay for her gas though.
She has adult freedoms but takes on very little adult household responsibilities. I know I need to talk to her about "stepping up to the plate" but I don't want to go overboard or have it turn into an arguement. I need some guidelines and a well thought out expections before I do that.
Any help would be appreciated.