so sad and so angry -- my daughter is pregnant
I have just learned my 21 year old daughter is pregnant. She is almost 4 months, and she has just now told us. She is unmarried, and we are very worried about her relationship with the father. She has been seeing him for about a year, and we and her other family members and friends have had alot of serious concerns about him. She has said she is breaking up with him time and again but never does. Now I learn she had been staying often with him, and now she has moved in.
I go from crying spells to angry to worried to a sense of "everything will be okay" and back again and again. She knows I love her and will stand by her no matter what. All this deception makes it hard to feel I have any kind of relationship with her. I am trying to keep the doors of communication open, but she is hard to pin down. She keeps things on a very superficial level where she is the most comfortable.
There is no place of peace in this. I have never known such turmoil. It is very difficult to do the normal, everyday things with this heaviness hanging over my heart. I see the damage this has done to the rest of her brothers and sisters, and it breaks my heart. Above it all, I am so concerned for her, but feel so helpless.
If anyone has anything to share, I would be glad to hear it.