I was reading a post from one of the psots from cfe mom at work since we are limited on what we can access and I ran across something on children with ADHD and med or not to meds.
It was a great article however it was missing out on some fundamental thingsthat clearly no one has monitored.
My wonderful son was diagnosed at age three with ADHD, EXPLOSIVE PERSONALITY DISORDER, SHCIZOPHRENIA(BORDERLINE) AND POSIBLE BORDERLINE AUTISM. I went back and forth with the drs on what we were going to do because by this time I already had every lock and motion sensor known to man on my doors through out the home and that did not stop my son from getting out and having the police bring him back at all hours of the night because when he should have been sleeping he was out playing because he was bored.
We tried all different meds and I agree that meds are not the only answer we also went to extensive counseling both family and one on one because I knew that as he got older that teens usually did not talk to their parent and I wanted to know that if he was not talking to me that at least he was talking to someone that he trusted and had his best interest at heart.
I got him involved in plent of play dates and in sports as he got olderbut the one thing that stayed consistent was the way I treated him I always explained to him about choices and consequences and showed him that if he makes a good choice than this is what can happen and if he makes an incorrect choice that there are cnsequences to those choices and made him accountable.
this article suggested that parents and school officials suggested that once the child was put on meds that was the answer to eerything as it is not. Theparents and the school must be on the same page when it comes to discipline and homework and what is expected from the child.
Sometimes I think I went back to school and got another education. But now he is an adult and is still on the meds and we still go through counseling because as an adult the problem does not disappear like so many peopl like to think. This is the time where you must pay even closer attention because so many more things can go wrong. You should always be there for them give them the options and explain to them the consequences of their actions. It will always be an ongoing process but not participating in their lives even at this point of the juncture can have a devastating effect. The hardest thing is not letting go so they can live their lives and it is not even letting them go out and find their own way in the world. The hardwst thing is knowing that you could have been there to give them the advice and help them figure out their options and choosing not to participate because you were busy or to tired to listen and be there.
We had a lot of tough times growing up but he is the most wonderful, thoughtful and well adjusted young man I have ever met and this is not just me talking this is from strangers that I have never met. He is a freshman in college and attending classes to be an astrophysicist.
My proud moment was when he turned to me a graduation and said thanks mom for always being there for me and never giving up on me especially when I did not always make the right decisions but I have been blessed because he has never been in trouble.
When I put my daughter on the medications. We also attended behavior modification classss to change the behaviors eventually without medication. The results are that she was only in medications for a few years.
Now she knows when she can let go and be herself. So basically when she comes here to visit, she reverts back to acting like a 10 year old. And that is ok with me. She knows it's not appropriate any where else.
Sounds like you did a great job! It's nice to know that there are happy endings with out the meds some times. :) I didn't give them to my son either. I'm not sure how well adjusted he is though. He has quite a few issues.
11:38 pm
just because I'm curious......
- curtainjerker
on Feb. 14, 2012 at 12:48 AM