Its so hard when ur kids hurting...* Final update / in reply""
First off I know my DD is an adult, and has to make her own decisions.. This is a VENT..(sorry it's long)
My DD called me 2 nights ago, asking if my YDD still had the sexual texts her husband had sent to my YDD(yes u read that right). Unfortunalty neither of us were thinking when YDD's phone broke and went back under warranty, and deleted them. My YDD was visiting my ODD and went out with ODD & her "husband" and a friend of theirs, when they all went home, he stayed up, and started to text my YDD sexually asking if "she wanted some", even opened the door to the room my YDD was staying in.(thank goodness my YDD got her sister, and woke her up) but, only told her sister to go to bed. and didn't make snake in the grass go to bed too, so YDD didn't sleep that night.(my folks were visiting,staying in the same house, I told YDD she should have hollered about him being in the room, my mother would have kicked snake in the grass's ass!)He blames in on having too much to drink, but never misspelled a single word, even changed his signature on his messages!
Before this incident, I told my ODD, about snake in the grass, sending sexual messages to my YDD's friend on face book, and my ODD, was mad, but passed it off as both of them "flirting, I should tell u both girls are 19! Snake in the grass was a friend on my YDD's face book and he kept sending her "uncomfortable online messages" she deleted him as a friend. I also told my ODD this.. again, My ODD, just passed it off as her sister being too sensitive(my YDD was raped at 13 yrs old) I drive to see my 2 grand children, and help keep them(my ODD works nights,snake in the grass got fired from his job(accused of stealing, not proven) was out of work for over 6 months) is behind on child support for his other 3 kids.. when I am there, he will say, I'm going to Rite aid to get some Rolaids, and be gone a minimum an hour(the store is 5 mins away) and I will see Rolaids on the kitchen window sill.. A friend of my ODD, told her, about a time they all went out, and snake in the grass started sexually messaging a friend of theirs he met once even asking her to come over, no one would know, wife works nights.... My ODD's best friend told her, one night recently, they all went out together,YEP, u see where I'm going here, snake in the grass starting hitting on the best friend, (best friend stoped him in his trackes) New neighbors move in, a few houses down, w/ kids the same age as ODD SKDS, they invite the family over to sit by a fire and play.. snake in the grass and the new neighbors wife exchange phone numbers, he started to text her, after they left, he passed out, ODD heard his phone and saw the text messages back and forth..
I know my ODD, she is so stubborn, she was ready to end it and not give him anymor chances... I talked to her today, she isn't ready to "want to run out and get a divorce.. he yells at her she will "never get the kids" he will keep the house and keep the girls. ODD makes twice what snake in the grass makes. I know this type of con man,and cheater. I was married to one for 16 yrs! He is my kids father. She is going thru exactly what I was going thru, I know all the emotions she is going thru. (oh baby, it won't happen again) They are going to give it one more try with "stricter ideals" on their marriage. It's not her, it's HIM, but he is making her feel like it's her fault, she had a baby just about a yr ago and hasn't lost all the baby weight,, etc.. The think is, she isn't going to be there at night. The kids will be in bed, they are 1 & 2 yrs old. She can't "control what he does". His last 3 (yes 3) marriages ended in diovrce because he cheated. My heart aches for my daughter, and I feel for her innocence in all this, he has her believing in all his snake in the grass con shit! I had this man pegged the first time she ever brought him to meet me! I hope she doesn't waste 16 yrs of her life with this snake. He is killing her spirit day by day. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.