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I think a lot of you ladies remember me posting about my pond scum daughters husband, how he has cheated on her, she threw him out twice, I took the babies, on a moments notice (and live 2 &1/2 hrs away) so they didn't see their P.O.S. father moving out..(keep in mind during one of these times, this p.o.s. tried to get her sister in bed with him!). both times she took him back. Then just a few weeks ago, I get another frantic call, it's ODD asking me not to say I told u so(I never would do that) again I took the babies on a moments notice again, she brought them to me, all upset,she has actual proof this time,She is done, this is it!(she even had to go to the Dr. he gave her,, well u can guess) I was sick, and my R.A. and Lupus was flaring and I've been back and forth at the dr, I really didnt need these babies, but she needed help,I've been in her shoes, with no help.
My parents share a house with my ODD, (they actually got the house first, and my ODD and pond scum moved in 2 yrs ago, but the land lord decided to sell the house, and my ODD & her pond scum did a contract with him to buy the house. My folks go back north during the summers. Well, yet again, ODD is taking pond scum back, he works days, she works 3-11, gives pond scum plenty of time to have chicks over(which was part of the proof my ODD found) while the babies are sleepin in that same house) I told my ODD, if she decided to do this,due to the fact that she & her grand parents share bills, they need to be told what is going on. I left it at that. I knew the moment my parents went north(3 days ago) pond scum would move back in. I told my mom my feeling. My mom said she sorta all ready figured that out anyway.
So, my ODD, sends a TEXT to my mother(they are in the same house) I know mama told u "Joe"(not real name) is moving back in, if you can't get along with him, I suggest YOU find another place to go to when you come back this fall! My mom told my ODD, she lost all respect for pond scum when he tried what he did with my ODD's younger sister, she can co-habitate and not talk to him. Now remember my parents split all expenses with them! and my ODD, can't FACE my mother, her grandmother to talk this out! I didn't raise her like this. I'm so disappointed she has such lack of respect for her grandmother, someone who took HER and her Pond scum and a baby, while she needed to finish college!
My folks have a motor home, and my dad has a friend who will let them put it on his land for free, but my mom wanted a house, she didn't want to live out her yrs in a motor home all the time.(she will be 72 this yr and my dad 75) When I found out she Text my mom, I was so upset,
I sent my ODD an email,. it pretty much said," I know u don't want to hear this but, just because your husb. isn't "living' w/you, doesn't mean he isn't living like a single man, and he is telling YOU what YOU want to hear. Plus he tried to have sex with your younger sister! If you can forgive all of what you know he has done, your a way better person than I am, and I will support ur decision, he is ur husband, ur kids father, and my grandchildren's father. you know the love a parent has for their children, and urs aren't even dating yet! That love doesn't go away because they get married, what happened to that girl that stood between me and XX when he was going to punch me and YOU had ur fists up ready to hit him? What happened to the girl that always asked me why do you keep putting up with Dads crap? where is that spunk? I'm sorry, I haven't met up to your standards as a mother, and I'm tired of being blamed for everyone's problems, as you know being a parent there is no instruction booklet. I just did the best I could. I'm here for you when ever u want to call, text or email.
she never replied,I didn't expect her too, This is a vent, I know she is an adult, and had to reach all these decisions on her own. I'm just so hurt she treated her grandparents like crap, I taught her better, respect all elders! I don't recognize this person.