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Texting War between Sisters!!! :(

Posted by on May. 3, 2012 at 1:37 PM
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First off, I know both my girls are considered "adults" ODD is 24, YDD is 19.

Now ODD has always been spoiled rotten by her BD. No matter what,(one day when she was 3 he even bought her a huge washer(circular thing) just because they were in the hardware store and she wanted it!) BUT, my YDD, her BD never did any thing with her, didn't take her anywhere, or spend anytime with her. As a matter of fact when I found out I was pregnant with her, he gave me the ultimatum of  keep the baby or  divorce, If I stayed married to him he wanted me to get an abortion! I called my parents to see if they would come get my 3 yr old and myself and help us out(we lived almost 1000 miles away, I had no money to get a place of my own and he wouldn't give me any) YES, BD is the father to both girls.

ok, with that info. Naturally ODD has a super relationship with BD, as he still spoils her, to this day even tho she is married, and has 2 kids(yes the same one with the cheating pond scum DH) He bought her a car @ 17,(gets her what ever she wants or needs) and to this day will let her go to his place of work and fill her tank if her finances are low(pond scum is back home BTW) BD buy ODD birthday presents, went to ODD's H.S. graduation, always keeps the grands on weekends.

YDD, has almost no relationship with her BD, no matter how much she has tried, he kept promising her a car, @ 17 never got her one. Didn't go to YDD's H.S. graduation,& never gets her anyting for her birthday, as he has no clue when it is.(again with that info)

So,YDD needs a new laptop for college, she only has a part time job, and has college. She is only eligible for student loans, So YDD thought she would ask her BD for help with the laptop.(to my surprise, he said yes.)

Well, BD mentions to ODD about YDD needing a laptop and she goes off, about how YDD is "playing" him and YDD doesn't need a new one as she got one for Christmas.(she didn't,& ODD knows this)It was a graduation present DH & I went in on together and we got her a refurbished one! YDD has had it almost 4 yrs(its acting up) there's no telling how old it really is.

BD texts YDD with how he doesn't appreciated being "played" she doesn't need a lap top she got a new one @ Christmas! per ODD!. YDD text back no I didn't and explained about her laptop.

Text world war 3 broke out between the 2 sisters after that! YDD was even going to play the u can't keep your DH from not keeping his pants closed, U need to mind ur own business,( I don't think she did)

What bothers me, is on the rare occasions, YDD asks BD for help, ODD goes off on her and gets all pissed off, saying she doesn't need it, or what ever excuse she has. IT's none of ODD's business! Which is what YDD first said, but ODD, just kept them coming, I kept hearing, I"m gonna hurt her feelings... it's coming. she's gonna be sorry.

I stayed out of it. I told her to ignore them. I also told her to not get her hopes up for a laptop, as her BD has a habit of saying yes, and doing nothing. Other than asking about it, but nothing ever comes out of it. I'm not sure If I should butt in or stay out, ODD, is NOT the mother, I am, even tho each girl are "adults"... I have decided if ODD calls or text me about his, I am telling her I'm not getting involved.

Thanks for listening. Ps,no the girls are not close, they used to be, but as YDD started to see the favoritizim,, it went away, then add ODD pond scum pulled that crap, and ODD picked his side,,, well

 


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by on May. 3, 2012 at 1:37 PM
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mommy_2_be_2010
by Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:41 PM
I'm confused
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gr8d8n3mom
by Bronze Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:45 PM

I tried to redo it..sorry. the girls dad, mentioned to the older child, he was going to help the younger one with a lap top, and the older one, told their dad, he was being "played" that the younger one just got a new lap top at christmas,(she didn't)  and talked him out of helping the younger one.

The older one always puts her nose in where it doesn't belong as far as youngers stuff with their dad... Both girls then got in a texting fight for over an hour!

Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

I'm confused



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mommy_2_be_2010
by Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:47 PM
Sounds like your oldest is a daddys girl and daddy is afraid to put her in her place


Quoting gr8d8n3mom:

I tried to redo it..sorry. the girls dad, mentioned to the older child, he was going to help the younger one with a lap top, and the older one, told their dad, he was being "played" that the younger one just got a new lap top at christmas,(she didn't)  and talked him out of helping the younger one.

The older one always puts her nose in where it doesn't belong as far as youngers stuff with their dad... Both girls then got in a texting fight for over an hour!


Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

I'm confused



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shayleo1
by on May. 3, 2012 at 1:51 PM
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BD is a doucheba and I can't believe he acts that way towards YDD. His loss, I just feel sad for YDD because she did nothing wrong to deserve the treatment he gives her. As hard as it may be for YDD, she needs to just cut her losses when it come to that piece of crap(BD). I am truly amazed! Wow!

 

Oh and ODD needs to mind her own damn business and stop being so jealous when BD wants to so called do something for YDD. It seems that BD maybe also tainted by the words of ODD.

gr8d8n3mom
by Bronze Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:55 PM

very much so, unfortunately at the expense of a decent relationship with his second daughter. This man isn't getting any younger he is 62, (yeah I married a guy 14 yrs older than me, I was so young and stupid)

I hate to see how my younger daughter has such a crappy relationship with her dad

Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

Sounds like your oldest is a daddys girl and daddy is afraid to put her in her place


Quoting gr8d8n3mom:

I tried to redo it..sorry. the girls dad, mentioned to the older child, he was going to help the younger one with a lap top, and the older one, told their dad, he was being "played" that the younger one just got a new lap top at christmas,(she didn't)  and talked him out of helping the younger one.

The older one always puts her nose in where it doesn't belong as far as youngers stuff with their dad... Both girls then got in a texting fight for over an hour!


Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

I'm confused





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mommy_2_be_2010
by Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:57 PM
My daughter is 2 im 25 her dad will be 42 and her step mom is 22 so yea i've been there too

Quoting gr8d8n3mom:

very much so, unfortunately at the expense of a decent relationship with his second daughter. This man isn't getting any younger he is 62, (yeah I married a guy 14 yrs older than me, I was so young and stupid)

I hate to see how my younger daughter has such a crappy relationship with her dad


Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

Sounds like your oldest is a daddys girl and daddy is afraid to put her in her place





Quoting gr8d8n3mom:

I tried to redo it..sorry. the girls dad, mentioned to the older child, he was going to help the younger one with a lap top, and the older one, told their dad, he was being "played" that the younger one just got a new lap top at christmas,(she didn't)  and talked him out of helping the younger one.

The older one always puts her nose in where it doesn't belong as far as youngers stuff with their dad... Both girls then got in a texting fight for over an hour!



Quoting mommy_2_be_2010:

I'm confused







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dreamweaver56
by on May. 3, 2012 at 1:57 PM
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Good God at the drama ! Wow....for your own sanity, I'd say stay all the way out of it. Nothing you can say or do will change things, anyway. BD planted this situation, and the crop is coming in...let HIM deal with it !

gr8d8n3mom
by Bronze Member on May. 3, 2012 at 1:59 PM

OMGSH yes he is, and YDD does, but I think she keeps thinking maybe this one time will be different.

and dang it, ODD DOES need to mind her own DAM business, she pisses me off so much! She is so afraid YDD might get something, and ODD then won't be able too.. grow the heck up!

Quoting shayleo1:

BD is a doucheba and I can't believe he acts that way towards YDD. His loss, I just feel sad for YDD because she did nothing wrong to deserve the treatment he gives her. As hard as it may be for YDD, she needs to just cut her losses when it come to that piece of crap(BD). I am truly amazed! Wow!


Oh and ODD needs to mind her own damn business and stop being so jealous when BD wants to so called do something for YDD. It seems that BD maybe also tainted by the words of ODD.



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amylulu1
by Amy on May. 3, 2012 at 2:09 PM

 Can you call him directly and let him know that she absolutely did NOT receive a new laptop?  Maybe he doesn't know which one to believe and if you set him straight, he may still get her one...?  On second thought, he is probably just using that as an excuse not to get her one based on his past treatment of her...He is such a d*** for treating her that way and ODD is being a conniving brat.  It sounds like she is the one "playing" BD.  I don't blame you for staying out of it...

CoeyG
by on May. 3, 2012 at 2:09 PM

You said it yourself your ex spoiled the oldest daughter and it is quite obvious that he didn't want the younger one.  This is all stuff you and he should have discussed before you got married actually.  There is no real advice I can give other than stay out of the battles between your daughters.  You are aware of how their father treats them and they are well aware of it.  None of that is going to change.  What you can do is when they come tattling to you is to simply tell them to leave you out of it, you don't want to hear it and if they have a problem with the way the father is then they need to take it up with him, not you and that includes your younger daughter.  She needs to stop expecting you to fix things for her with her father.  You are no longer married to him and how he treats her is between the two of them now that she is an adult.  

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