Let ds's gf stay with us (She's an ex now) Need advice
Ds started dating this girl in Jan. He had known her for several years, they were friends in hs.
She said her mom kicked her out and she had no where to go. It was like she just moved in, we were never asked. But I felt sorry for her and let her stay. She had never had a bf before, only dated chicks.
When she moved in, neither she nor my ds had a job. He lucked up and found one and she just recently got a job. She was here for several months, living for free. I told them they had to pay 50$ a week and help with groceries. Ds gave me a total of 150$, which I gave back to him, they were saving for a car.
I told them they needed to help around the house, all I asked them to do was the dishes and take out the trash. Which she did in the beginning, as ds was working.
When she got a job, she decided she didn't have time to do these things. Instead of being greatful we gave her a place to stay.
She decided she was being treated as a slave and left. Broke up with ds. That's not the problem.
The problem is her dog is here, she won't come get it, even though I told her to. She went behind my back and told my dh all kinds of lies about ds, which he believed because ds has had problems before, but he has changed 100%. He is working every day, even walking 45 mins to his job for weeks because he didn't have a ride.
She told dh and every body else ds used her to buy the car. That she paid most of the money, which I know is not true, because she is a waitress and she told me almsot daily how much she made, so it's not possible in the time she has been working for her to have done this.
She is posting on fb all of these lies about ds, going around telling everyone he is a drus addict and has all kinds of problems. Everyone is replying to her, you go girl, don't be a door mat, etc. These things are just not true. I want so bad to reply to her on fb, to say that she is a drams queen who used my ds for a place to stay until she found the next victim, a chick, btw, to move onto, this is what I and everyone else that knows her thinks she has done. My dd has known her for a long time and says this is what she does. Makes drama and causes problems, playing the victim the whole time.
My dd and I do not reply to her fb because she and her family like to press charges on people, so we just watch what she posts about ds and say nothing.
How can I make her come get her things and her dog? And get out of our lives without all the drama?
I thought I was helping her, only to be stabbed in the back. I told her yesterday that all of the things she says about ds, she said about her mom and her ex. Makes you not want to help people.