My 20 yr old daughter has been on a downward spiral in the last year...dropped out of college, racked up huge debt, decided to enter a homosexual lifestyle, having several short term relationships one of which resulted in moving to another state to live with a girl she knew for 2 weeks and met online, and when it didn't work out after 2 months she told us that she started cutting and burning herself and doesn't want to live anymore. This child was on a successful track graduating from highschool with some awards and small scholarships, completed one year of college (living in dorms), on track to finish her associates degree and transfer to a bigger college for her bachelors this year, this has been a complete turnaround in a matter of 8-10 months.
Thinking she is suicidal, we rescued her from the other state and brought her home to get her counseling and back on track, on the way home she was teary, vulnerable, didn't want to be alone etc. We set up counseling, but before she even went within 2 days she was like a spoiled teenager, doing whatever she wants, living in filth in her bedroom, refusing to go to counseling and/or get a job, when confronted she just leaves, last night she took off with a friend and has not returned home yet, she has no cell phone, a debit card with a little money in the account from her previous job and just the clothes on her back. I suspect she will return today while we are at work, eat and help herself to whatever she needs for the night and take off again. We don't know what to do, any advice would be appreciated, what counselers we have contacted are crazy expensive and it is hard to take time off work during their hours, we need help.