Did you spank your children? Is it abuse OR an effective discipline tool?
When I was growing up my Mom and Dad were firm believers in "spare the rod, spoil the child". My brothers and I got spankings for anything we did wrong. It was always only a hand across the butt, nothing more. We always had a healthy fear of the consequences of our actions. I tell my kids that when I was in school that everybody had a paddle...and when you did something wrong they could spank you, no problem.
When my were growing up, I did spank them. In my opinion it is an effective discipline tool.