Common courtesy or none of your business? Update question.....
Just a question.....
If your married adult child goes out of town/state for the weekend, is it common courtesy to let you (as his/her parent)? Or is it none of your business?
Let me rephrase: Is it common courtesy or none of your business, to let you know that they are going out of town. Not what they're doing, just to inform you they're going.
With lastest technolgy of cell phones and things, does anyone take into consideration that cell phones die, and/or lose signal? Does this play into the safety/ emergency issue?
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Quoting DixieL:Common courtesy. If my son disappeared without telling me I would be scard to death. He always tells me where he is going and about when he will be back
In this day and age it is a bit difficult for an adult to "disappear" unless someone removes them from the face of the earth. There are cellphones, Ipohnes, Ipads all kinds of communication devices I've heard tell that you can access the internet on your laptop in your car now. When Shannon and I came cross country from Caliofnria almost 5 years ago we got a flat tire, pulled over, pulled out the cell phone and dialed AAA, within a half hour I was heaed to the nearest Firestone place to get a free tire because they were still under warantee. Shannon's dad knew we were heading this way so that evening Shannon called to let him know that we'd probably be a day later than we had planned because of it. There was no reason to contact anyone else regarding the flat tire, not much anyone else could do about it. Yes people knew we were moving here but that is because we were moving not just goihg out of town. Like I said, I have people who love me, but they don't need to know every time I fart.
Quoting catchup29:
Always my business. Only because we have a common respect for each other. I tell her when I'm going to be out of town also. It's not about being nosey, it's about knowing she is safe.
I respect my daughter, she respects me but I don't have to know where she is all the time. If she lived with me that would be a different story...she doesn't, if she shits in Texas it's going to take too damned long to get from Pennsyvania to wipe her ass.
Both. It would be a courtesy for t hem to let you know for safety but not required. I always tell my mom or someone just in case i end up missing she can say the last time she talked to me i was going to..... and she lives 1000mi away. Now i have adult kids and they tell me or their Grandma or even their bio dad. I talk to them everyday anyway and it would just come up in conversation regardless.
Quoting CoeyG:
Yes that is too far to wipe her butt. However there is a difference in the situations. We live in dangerous times and I think that everyone needs someone to know where they are and where they are going. Without getting into details, I know 100% my brother would still be alive had he just told someone where he was going. So that is why I make sure my children an I communicate. I'm thankful they do no lt tell me when they have to shit.
As long as someone kows that they have gone away and where I don't thin the parents necessarily have to know. I saw someone because that way if they are not back when expected because of an accident or some other incident it can get looked into if they do not contact anyone. (IE went camping and got lost in the woods or injured where they could not leave)
first of all relax... i wasn't being judgemental nor was i making an assumption...why dont you take a moment to read the post and take notice of the smiley faces that i typed along with the "LOL"
thats indicative of a joke, something being funny and making light of a comment...
so sweetie it seems like you're the one making assumptions, and read too much into something...smh
next...
Quoting LoriDeen:
Why would you assume that just because family members don't update each other on their schedules they don't love each other? What an odd thing to say. I have plenty of people who love me, but I don't feel they need to know what I'm doing all the time. Families communicate in a variety of different ways, and just because some don't exchange itineraries that doesn't mean they don't love each other. And to insinuate that, because schedules aren't given to family members all the time, someone people "don't have people that love you..." is very judgemental.
Quoting shadenn766:
lol...it has nothing to do with being nosey...there are family members that tell vacation plans to one another...not about prying or being nosey...its just family communicating with each other... its not mandatory, but a courtesy, they do it because they want to...not because they have to
maybe you dont have people that love you, and/or check in on you from time to time...but a lot of us do...lol...
Quoting CoeyG:
Quoting shadenn766:
common courtesy...absolutely nothing wrong with checking in/checking on family
Why would you be so nosey? If the adult offspring is married and not living at home the only one(s) needing to know where that person is would be their spouse and their children. That would be common courtesey. But if it's an adult living on their own then they are entitled to their personal life without having to inform their parents...it's not like this adult offspring needs parental permission to go out of town.
Quoting CoeyG:
Quoting DixieL:
Common courtesy. If my son disappeared without telling me I would be scard to death. He always tells me where he is going and about when he will be back
In this day and age it is a bit difficult for an adult to "disappear" unless someone removes them from the face of the earth. There are cellphones, Ipohnes, Ipads all kinds of communication devices I've heard tell that you can access the internet on your laptop in your car now. When Shannon and I came cross country from Caliofnria almost 5 years ago we got a flat tire, pulled over, pulled out the cell phone and dialed AAA, within a half hour I was heaed to the nearest Firestone place to get a free tire because they were still under warantee. Shannon's dad knew we were heading this way so that evening Shannon called to let him know that we'd probably be a day later than we had planned because of it. There was no reason to contact anyone else regarding the flat tire, not much anyone else could do about it. Yes people knew we were moving here but that is because we were moving not just goihg out of town. Like I said, I have people who love me, but they don't need to know every time I fart.
Unfortunately during emergencies cell phones often don't work. I live in CA and any time there is an earthquake, power outage or wildfire.... the cell towers are overrun. You can sometimes get a text through but rarely a call.
I was travelling out of the country for work during a bad CA wildfire. If I hadn't told my parents/sister that I was leaving town for work, then they would have been in a panic trying to figure out where evacuated to (my DH went with me). As it was, my sister made sure my dogs were okay. My dad hunted down the kids and made sure they were safe (they were evacuated). My dad and sister knew we were gone and that we likely didn't know what was happening. They took care of all this about 14 hours before we even knew what happened... .and no my dad does not live anywhere near us he tracked down the kids patiently with phone and email.
You do what you will... but I would rather be safe than sorry.
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- busygramma4
on Jun. 11, 2012 at 12:34 PM