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OMG..She's at it again! (vent with swearing)

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My sister that is....the one that is for lack of a better term a "bad seed". I have posted a few things about her before. I try to not associate with her unless I Have to. She is a textbook sociopath...mean, vindictive, sneaky, manipulative, self centered, narcissistic, ETC.........

I came home from work early last night because I was not feeling well. after taking something to settle my tummy I get on FB and see a status from her asking for boxes. Seeing as she is living in my mom's house still I asked what she needed them for and she said her BF was moving out and she was thinking about it too. I called my mom this morning to ask her if Tammy had said anything to her about possibly moving and while on the phone returned to Tammy's FB page to read to my mom exactly what Tammy wrote.

Low and behold, she has a new status up....offering to rent my mother's house out to whomever happens to read her status (her profile is public). My mom had no clue! She told one of her friends that she would rent it to her for $500 a month and I am damn sure if she had succeeded in her plan that she would have kept the fucking money and not said a word to my mom. Now my mom is upset (rightfully so) and we gotta figure out how to stop this with minimal damage. I know Tammy will be plotting to get back at anyone who gets in her way, she does it anytime she perceives she has been "wronged". 

I will be half expecting CPS or the police to come knocking on my door in the near future because She makes sure she hits where it will cause the most trouble/pain/damage. It is not beyond her to call the police with a annonomous tip of drug dealing or CPS with allegations of child abuse. Not that I have anything to worry about but I don't need the extra stress of that kind of shit. Hopefully I am just borrowing troub;e and she won't but I would not be surprised if it happens either.

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by on Jul. 1, 2012 at 11:23 AM
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LadySaphira
by Lisa on Jul. 2, 2012 at 11:23 AM

It is not hurt that makes my sister act tis way, she has been this way all her life. She is great at  making others outside the camily think she is a kind wondrful person and feel sorry for her though (another trait of a sociopath). 

My mom has been living in a 55+ appartment building for the past 2 years, my siset is supposed to be buying the house from her but has never paid her a penny. Unfortunatly, in NYS you have to serve the person you want out of your home 30 day eviction papers before you can force them to leave. During that time my sister would systematicly destroy the house in any way possible to seek out revenge. If  taken to court for dmages (which my mom does not have the money to do), my sister would simply not pay on any judgment against her and take off for somewhere else. 

Quoting homeskoolmama:

wow, your sister is in need of some serious mental help, she has a lot of hurt built up inside and she is lashing out to damage those around her.

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this and pray it gets better. Your poor mom! Is she still at the house? She can call the police to have your sister removed.


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louannwilkins
by Louann on Jul. 2, 2012 at 11:34 AM

I don't even know what to say except I'm sorry you're going through all this crap.  Try to hang in there and support your mom as I already know you do and maybe this will blow over.  Hugs to you girl!!

pegleg63
by on Jul. 2, 2012 at 7:44 PM

Your sister certainly can't rent out a place that doesn't belong to her, not legally that is. 

CoeyG
by on Jul. 2, 2012 at 9:55 PM


Quoting LadySaphira:

sorry, yu would have to pay your own electric and buy your own propane every winte. umm water is free (well water)  but you may have to have the septic pumped lol


Quoting CoeyG:

Oh yeah I also wanted to ask, who is responsible for the utilities on the place?  If it is all included with the rent I'll move your sister out myself LOL


Oh it's on a septic...no thanks LOL and propane can be pricy, we lived in a place that was heated by propane UGH...

marmie41
by Member on Jul. 2, 2012 at 10:01 PM

Technically she is not a renter because she is not paying rent.  She is a family member staying free of charge out of the goodness of mom's heart.  Maybe that is your mother's loop hole to get her out ASAP.  Did you mother have a signed lease agreement with sister?  If not I would think that would be another loop hole.  Just asking, because I have no knowledge about the tenant/landlord laws of NY. 

LadySaphira
by Lisa on Jul. 2, 2012 at 10:24 PM

no, lease agreement because she was not renting it..she was supposed to be making monthly payments towards buying it but never did and my mom kind of just let it go because of how nasty my sister can be. Now she really has no choice but to do something, what she is going to do IDK yet. In NYS if theer is no lease you have to file for a 30 day eviction whether it is family or not. My mom is going to call her lawyer to find out what exactly she has to do to protect her stuff.

Quoting marmie41:

Technically she is not a renter because she is not paying rent.  She is a family member staying free of charge out of the goodness of mom's heart.  Maybe that is your mother's loop hole to get her out ASAP.  Did you mother have a signed lease agreement with sister?  If not I would think that would be another loop hole.  Just asking, because I have no knowledge about the tenant/landlord laws of NY. 


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jonnlilithsmom
by on Jul. 3, 2012 at 9:34 AM

it's probably not legal, but I would want to arrange a "midnight move" for your sister...

take her out, partying, or shopping or something she'd enjoy... 

and while she's out, you have a crew clear out her stuff from the house, and put it all in storage, then change the locks on the house, and give her the key to the storage unit.  You'll have to guard the house until she's moved on, to keep her from going back to set it on fire or something (my sister would, and yours sounds a lot like mine) but she'd be out, and you could get someone in there to rent it for some extra income for your mom...

... just my 2 cents 

Shellness
by Michell on Jul. 3, 2012 at 10:17 AM

 When you mother talks to the attorney make sure he gets the judge to tell her that if she damages the property not only will she have to pay resitution but go to jail, and then if she doesn't pay, go BACK to jail. Get it to where someone like the police can go in and take pictures of its CURRENT condition so there will be proof of damage if she tries that crap.

TinaW.
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 3:21 PM

Wow, I feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for your mom, too. What a rotten egg.

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