I know I do not post very often, but was hoping to get some feedback. This may have already been discussed but I just wanted others opinions as well. I have a 21 yr old daughter, who for the most part has been a good kid. She was going to college online but has failed out, her doings not mine. She has a job, but no car, she moved in with her older brother and his girlfriend. But she is sleeping upstairs and their air does not keep it cool at all. She has a boyfriend who stays with her there on the weekends, this is why she moved out is because we would not allow boyfriend to stay here on the weekends. I feel bad she has to stay in a room with basically no air in this heat wave we are having. She did not have sex until she was 19 and has only had sex with one other guy besides the she is seeing now. Is is wrong of me to let her come back home and him to stay the weekends with her. My gut and heart say yes it is wrong, but my head worries about her in the heat. No bashing please, I am really torn here. We have a great relationship and I don't want to cause it any turmoil. What she does now is I pick her up on Monday when I get off work and she stays here with us till Thursday morning when I go to work I drop her off at her brothers house. What would you do???????
No not really, the living room has chairs and no couches. Plus with the hours and things it would not work out with my son and his girlfriend. I was just wondering because so much has changed since I was a kid, but I was not ok with it morally just for the fact I don't believe it is right. Thanks for your input, I thought I was just being a stick in the mud.
Keep in mind that summer/heat will be over eventually,
Does this mean she will stay even after the heat?
Tough call yes .. but she has made her choices so ::sigh::
It's hard when they are adults now ..
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Your rules. If she is that uncomfortable in her garrett she can buy a fan or buy a small window airconditioner. If you feel like it she can come stay with you, but the rules stay. It's not going to hurt her at all. Personally I don't get the picking her up on Monday, but I have my own deadbeats, so no bashing here.
The reason she is where she is is because she didn't want to follow the rules. She actred like a child and threw basically a tantrum and figured she would show you. She knows you will worry about her and she is probably expecting you to tell her she can come home and have her way. So now you have to decide is is it your home or her's and once you back down on one rule, you're going to have to back down on the rest. Prettysoon boyfriend will be moving in and you'll be paying extra for groceries, higher utility bills and maybe he will feel like paying you rent on occasion...To put it simply I wold tell my daughter that I worry about her in this heat and if she wants to sleep more comfortably her room is open...as long as she complies with my rules. IF she says no, then so be it...They don't have AC in homeless shelters either...And why isn't she staying with her boyfrinde?
You know, air-conditioning hasn't been around forever. If our founding forefathers couldn't handle the heat - heck they couldn't even go to Walmart and buy a fan! then none of us would be here today I suppose. leave her be. Don't go inviting her back home just because of a little heat wave. lol. let her figure it out. That's what God made Walmart. They sell fans.
no!!!! it's your house right? then it's your rules!!! if she wants to play house with her bf, and sex hang out for the weekend, then she can 1)move into her own place, pay her own bills...2) get a motel for the weekend....I firmly believe that letting your kid (even tho she's an adult), to have her guys sleep and have sex with her in your house is not ok.....
If your not comfortable having him at your house on the weekends then don't change your mind on something that was important to you.
This isn't new behavior on your daughter's end, people have moved out of houses because they didn't like someone else's rules to follow.
I know your upset about the air conditioning, is she?
LADIES I NEED YOUR HELP!
- cbunch123
on Jul. 4, 2012 at 11:10 PM