Should we start offering an allowance to our 17 year old?
SD moved in about a year ago at 16 1/2. Dad has never paid any of the kids an allowance because they lived with the biomom and he pays a generous child support. SD does have some entitlement issues and wants more so we required her to get a part time job this summer to pay for extras. We provide room, board, special foods, toiletries, minimal gas for to/from work/school, back to school clothes, etc.
SD will not be working during school as she has been struggling with school and her job is to graduate. SD says she feels uncomfortable asking us for money and has asked for an allowance. First, would you start paying one, If so, what amount would you offer weekly? We have always paid her to babysit her 2 1/2 year old sister or do extra cleaning if she wants extra money. We have help pay for her debate trips with spending money and on occassion to do stuff with friends. However, this is a huge cut in what she is used to when living with her biomom who is a spender and whose love language is "gifts." Please help!!!