Still worried about my mom

[Bmat]

Mom is home from the hospital, but her health has declined, and it wasn't even very good when she was sent home yesterday. We hired a home care company to provide someone to be there around the clock, but she won't cooperate with them or with my sister who has been her caregiver. So this evening I went over, and when the home care person said she couldn't get wet clothes off of her nor her antibiotic and no food or drink, I went in, closed the door and said let's do this, and got her changed, and a few sips of water, and her antibiotic- not nearly enough, but at least something.  The home care people can't force her, and if she is shy around strangers who want to help her to the bathroom or get her more comfortable,  or maybe resentful that we hired someone... Well this evening may have just been a fluke, so I'll try again tomorrow and see if I can help her out again.  She still won't eat anything, though. And she must take the antibiotics.  It is a major worry. She seems to feel too sick to strive to get get better.

[hugss]

Hugs to you hon,
Keep reminding your Mon that she need to cooperate .. for her own self/intereste.
Let us know how it is going :)

[caro100]

Good luck.  if she won't cooperate, she may have to go into a skillled care facility to get some rehab.   I had to do this with my Mother, (she lives with me.)  If she is too weak, the facility can give her the boost she needs.  Good luck, I'll be praying for you all.

[Why123]

This is a very difficult situation.  I will be praying.

[louannwilkins]

I'm so sorry Barb.  I know it must be so difficult and I get it.  I've been there with my mom and it's just me.  No siblings, no dh...me or her.  (my dad died in 2007)  I will remember all of you in my prayers.  Please keep us updated and I hope things will get better.    Hugs to you 

[nana9106]

Hugs to you Barb. I know exactly what you are going through. It is really tough. I am praying for you and your mom

[Shellness]

I think you should call her doctor and talk to him about the situation. He won't disclose private information unless you are on her forms to do so but he will help you to figure out what is best for your mother and what you are allowed to do to help her. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. Prayers being said for you. 

[gmadiane]

If things dont improve quickly I would be calling her doctor and maybe considering a nursing facility at least for a short time, good luck

[mac1940]

So sorry to hear that your mom is not responding to care.  Being chronically ill is always hard on everyone including the patient.  I agree with talking to her doctor and maybe a skilled nursing facility until she is improving.  You have my prayers and hopefully her condition will improve very soon.

[kuntrylady56]

(((HUGS))) Will be keeping your Mom and your family in my prayers.  Sometimes its hard for people thier age and being ill to accept that they need help. My Mom is the same way and knowing that she had to be depended on other people was very depressing to her.  Just be patient with her and hopefully she'll allow the people to care for her as needed.

[Bmat]

Thank you. She seems to feel so ill that she doesn't care about anything.

Quoting hugss:

Hugs to you hon,
Keep reminding your Mon that she need to cooperate .. for her own self/intereste.
Let us know how it is going :)