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 That my friends dh slapped my a$$ as we were leaving the dinner party?  Right in front of every one? 

Also during the dinner he would do this expression like someone is giving head where you put your tongue in your cheek to make it look like it is sticking out and making an in and out  motion with your hand that coincides with your tongue? I think everyone saw him do this but I felt like it was directed at me. He made it seem like he was making a joke.   We have known them for two years and have often met up with them for BBQ or dinner parties.  Usually he just sticks his tongue out Gene Simmons style at me.

Would you steer clear of them?  Tell her why or just kinda disappear?  Dh thinks they are swingers and his behavior dosent seem to bother her in the least.

 

 

by on Oct. 2, 2012 at 6:36 PM
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sacdp29
by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:29 PM


Quoting Esmrlda:

What did they start acting like?

Quoting sacdp29:

 

Quoting disnchntdwife:

Ummmm....can you say " inappropriate"?????


We had some friends that started acting like "swingers" and we aren't into that.  But it got very uncomfortable.  We don't hang around them anymore.  I'm glad that we don't .

 

Well unfortunately we all started drinking (alcohol) alot  and we got drunk and decided to streak down the street.  (she lived out in the county) ,  But it ended up not being a one night thing.  I was done with that.

KittyGram
by Becky on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:48 PM

 

Quoting EireLass:

I don't usually have the popular opinion, but I never have to repeat what I mean, to get the point across. If they were at gatherings that I wanted to be at, and he did it again, I would most likely grab him by the front of the throat, and say something very threatening to him. I gaurantee it would be his last time he did that.

 I wouldn't be this extreme, but if he did it to me in front of other people (or even with no one else around), I'd address it right then and there.  I wouldn't keep it nice, but I wouldn't grab him by the throat either.  I'd just say, "Hey, I don't like that kind of behavior, I think it's disgusting, and I'd appreciate it if you'd quit doing it," in front of everyone that is there. 

suzeebloch
by Ronna on Oct. 3, 2012 at 1:58 PM

I'd say something to him directly.  Because you need to show him you mean it and that you have the balls to tell him to his face, just like it was him who tried to grab your ass, not his wife.  Just be sure you don't wear anything slutty on halloween! 

Quoting Esmrlda:

 Blah, we are supposed to go to their house on Halloween.  Should I say something to his wife who is my friend or directly to him?

Quoting suzeebloch:

Let him know as soon as possible you are not into the swinging lifestyle.  I know some couples who are swingers and it sounds like he is just testing the waters.  But let him know you are uncomfortable with his "flirting" as soon as you can before it goes any further or else you might send him the wrong signals.  (Thinking outloud here - maybe he is thinking you are playing hard to get?) 

 


suzeebloch
by Ronna on Oct. 3, 2012 at 2:01 PM

If he and his wife are swingers, this isn't demeaning male chauvenist behavior on his part.  Esme needs to let him know she is not into the lifestyle.  Now, if he keeps it up AFTER she tells him, then yes, he would be a demeaning male chaujvenist jerk.

Quoting Shellness:

 What a demeaning male chauvenist jerk.


EireLass
by Gold Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 3:01 PM

Yea, most people wouldn't do this. As I said...I don't usually have the popular opinion.

Quoting KittyGram: 
Quoting EireLass:

I don't usually have the popular opinion, but I never have to repeat what I mean, to get the point across. If they were at gatherings that I wanted to be at, and he did it again, I would most likely grab him by the front of the throat, and say something very threatening to him. I gaurantee it would be his last time he did that.

 I wouldn't be this extreme, but if he did it to me in front of other people (or even with no one else around), I'd address it right then and there.  I wouldn't keep it nice, but I wouldn't grab him by the throat either.  I'd just say, "Hey, I don't like that kind of behavior, I think it's disgusting, and I'd appreciate it if you'd quit doing it," in front of everyone that is there. 


EireLass
by Gold Member on Oct. 3, 2012 at 3:04 PM

Please don't take this the wrong way. But I'm a little shocked that your husband sits there watching this every time it happens. I know Dan would most likely knock him to the floor.

jabs54
by Jeanine on Oct. 3, 2012 at 3:08 PM

 You probably should have told him to knock it off right then and there.  But, I would avoid him in the future.  Doesn't sound like someone who you'd want to be friends with.

Esmrlda
by Esme on Oct. 3, 2012 at 3:18 PM

I dont think he saw him do the other stuff,  just the slap. 

Quoting EireLass:

Please don't take this the wrong way. But I'm a little shocked that your husband sits there watching this every time it happens. I know Dan would most likely knock him to the floor.

 

Esmrlda
by Esme on Oct. 3, 2012 at 3:20 PM

 You know the Gene Simmons tongue is one thing but the tongue in the cheek thing is what really bothers me.  The slap was definatly uncalled for, not the first time Ive had my ass slapped or have had men come on to me but to be so damn blatant about it is just disgusting. 

Quoting Why123:

A jerk is a jerk is a jerk.  If he makes you uncomfortable and you don't like the way he is acting, stop seeing them.  He will get the point eventually after you are sick every time you are supposed to get together.

 

Esmrlda
by Esme on Oct. 3, 2012 at 3:22 PM

 Haha I totally agree. You know if I say something to her then our relationship will always be awkward because I can always go to lunch with her and not ever have to see him but it would never be the same.

Quoting kuntrylady56:

I think I would tell her that she needs to leash in her horn dog of a husband or you're going to find new friends. And if he couldn't sleep then maybe she should be keeping him happy so he's not making perverted inuendos to other women and slapping their asses.

 

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