WWYD? I want to say something to her **UPDATE**
I have been stewing on this for a couple of weeks and the more I think about it the more it pisses me off.
My mom passed away on the first of this month. At the visitation things were emotional and the funeral home was crowded. My cousin shows up and walks past me without a word...strange...I just figured she didn't see me. On her way out I was standing outside with some friends and she litterally RAN past me. Hummmm I guess she was in a hurry. The next day, at the cemetery I was standing there with some of my other cousins and she comes up and gives each of the three of them a hug....she turns her back to me and walks away. OK she IS having some kind of problem with me (I think I know what her problem is...but it truly has nothing to do with her and is none of her business). Right after the pastor gets done with the service the guests come by the family to offer condolences she passed me by. Then she was standing behind me and my daughter was standing beside me and she comes forward and pushes my daughter out of her way to speak to one of our uncles. Then my son is making the rounds giving hugs right before we leave, goes up to her to hug and she says something offish...he said he didn't really hear what she said but her tone was really hateful. I really think that she was being VERY disrespectful and childish. I lost MY mother and my kids lost THEIR grandma. I feel like if she couldn't conduct herself in an adult manner then she should have stayed home.
I haven't seen this cousin in years and I wont see her again until her mother passes. I want to send her a message on FB and tell her how shitty I think she is.
What would you do?
I see that the general opinion is to "let it go". But me being me...I have to say something. I have re-concidered the FB message, and decided to go with the "kill her with kindness' approach. I am going to send her a Thank You card. She fancys herself a Christian lady...just ask her.
This is what I have written down to send her:
I just wanted to drop you a line and say thank you for your kind words and show of support. Momma's passing has been the most difficult time in my life. There is no other love that could compare to how much we love our mothers. Having my family and friends there to support me, meant a great deal. Our faith and christianity allows us to draw strength from one another. In 1 Peter 3:8 it says "Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate and humble." By showing love and compassion in my time of great need, your Christian ways will surly be rewarded. Anyway, thanks again for being there for me.
Love you always,
What do ya'll think? It just seems like a regular thank you note, but SHE will know how I truly feel.