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looking for holiday spirit!

Posted by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 8:48 AM
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   With holidays coming and all the work they bring I hope I find it this year. We celebrate with whole family at my 82 yr old moms house and it is lots of work. This year I am newly married I have 2 kids he has 1 they range from 17 to 20 and should be interesting they could do with out ever seeing each other again. Just want to feel the joy i felt when I was young where did it go? Anyone feel the same?

by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 8:48 AM
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by Jeanine on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:03 AM

 I'm sorry your kids don't like each other.  I know from experience it is hard to marry and combine families.  What might help is to lower your expectations.  Know that it can take years for kids to accept step parents and step sibs.  Be thankful your mom is still alive.  My parents died 20+ yrs ago, how I wish I could spend Christmas with them!  I don't know what you mean by a lot of work but you can start cooking cookies now and freeze them.  Figure out other ways to lesson the work.  If your a Christian, remind yourself what you are celebrating.  Hope you find your holiday spirit! 

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by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:50 AM

I do agree with the other poster & hope things work out,
It does sound like it could be a fabulous time   for all to be together though.
Just try to stay positive, focus on all the good.
Let us know how it all goes ;)

by Lisa on Nov. 18, 2012 at 9:55 AM

I miss the big gatherings at my Grandparents every year at Christmas, we go to my brother's house now and it just isn't the same to me. I think that Christmas has become way to commercialized and they push it way to early. IT does take out some of the "magic" and joy.

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by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 10:04 AM

It's not the same for me either. I try and I fake it for the kid's sake. 

I'm trying to find it too. I'll let you know where it is and share when I do!!

by New Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 12:22 PM
Have lost ( hope just temporarily ) spirit and joy through ongoing divorce.
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by Gold Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 12:33 PM
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My mother was ill for the later  part of my childhood.  Christmas became a depressing holiday since she was so sick and we missed the family festivities.  So - I became very depressed during the holidays that actually lasted all winter.  I too miss my parents and grandparents terribly - but now the ball is in my court to carry on the family traditions since they are gone.  I had to learn to change my mindset and creat my own majic.  I set up topiary trees with lights all over the  house and I do a lot of cooking. I have also made every holiday  a big deal at my house to give me something to continually look forward too with my family.  I believe it is very important for my children and granddaughter to have an established tradition and fabulous memories to carry with them  I know that one of these days - they may not come home.  I will have to come up with a new plan then - perhaps go to their house!  Or see my sisters! 

by Platinum Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:36 PM

Its hard trying to please everybody especially when you have a blended family. Just do your best and try not to stress over everything. Holidays,especially Christmas is for families and friends to show their love and caring for each other.And also showing kindness to a perfect stranger.   

My Dad died 5 days before Christmas and 3 days beofre my birthday from cancer. So I should get really depressed at Christmas but I remeber how much my Dad enjoyed it and all the memories I have of all of us though the years. My Dad was like a child at Christmas with putting up the tree and presents.

So I find my Christmas spirit in remembering those friends and family that have passed and the memories I'm making for and with my children and grandchildren. Just being able to see my grandkids faces when they see Santa Claus in our town parade gives me joy.  Or the sound of Christmas carols and the bells at church.  

Its not all the commercialism and shopping.Its what we give and share with the ones we love and each other. 

I love making memories with my family,baking and decorating cookies,laying under the lit cChristmas tree with the grandkids.  Seeing them get excited when we turn the lights on outside. Letting them make paperchains all over the house and popcorn strings.  Just enjoy the little things.

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by Mary Ann on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:58 PM

Christmas stopped (for a long time) being a happy time for me as my dad died just a week or so before Christmas and a few years later my mom died just before Christmas.  Seemed like I started dreading the holidays because of what disaster might take place, but because my kids were young I had to make an effort and soon it all fell into place again and Christmas became a happy time. But Christmas will never be the same as it was when I was a child - maybe it's because families have become so scattered all over the globe, where they once pretty much stayed where they were raised, or kids have become so sophisticated in their interests and wants and don't seem to enjoy the same simple pleasures we used to, or maybe it's just that times are changing.  Everything has become so commercial and now the whole thing starts months before Christmas with the ads, the store decorations.  I was in Costco early in October and they were already selling Christmas decor, lighted trees.  Went to a store two weeks ago looking for Thanksgiving napkins and nothing available but Christmas stuff.  So I guess I have to admit that I too am in search of the true Christmas spirit I used to have.

by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:22 PM

I dont feel the same way I did when my kids were little, I am trying to get excited for the grandkids sake

by Jeanine on Nov. 18, 2012 at 6:16 PM

 I'm sorry for those who had a death at Christmas time.  I know what that feels like.   My father was dying of cancer at Christmas, he died in January.  Years later my mother died the day before Thanksgiving.  A few years after that my step-father died on Good Friday.  My dh said he would try to die on my birthday, sick joke, I know. 

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